Can a friendship survive this?

[Notsohappycamper]

Dh has just had to let go the husband of my closest friend here. I feel sick. She is a sahm. They've a big mortgage. I know dh had no choice as the guy couldn't go the task at hand and had already had too many chances to get it right because of the friendship..

I feel so sick with worry for her. Don't know what to do. Should I text her? Wtf can I say?

I wouldn't text her. I would call and say that "Obviously what has happened is very difficult for all concerned but that you value her friendship and if you can help, as a friend, during these difficult times for her to let you know". Don't say you are really sorry about what has happened, if he wasn't performing as required then from a professional perspective there is only one option.

If she starts to rant about what has happened, you can say that "You understand that she is upset but that the issue is between your husband and her husband and you can't comment on it".

Maintaining firm boundaries will be key I think.

I don't want to call now as they will have a lot to talk about, don't want to make it about me iykwim.. We have plans tomorrow. Should I just wait to hear from her? I'm guessing she may cancel

Seeing as you have plans, stick to that and then if she texts you i'd reply with what I said above but if not approach it the same way when you see her.

These things are horrible, i've had my own business and do understand that you feel like the bad guys but to employ someone who is not performing jsut because they are a friend is kind of patronising really.

Hope she is philosophical about it and in time things aren't so awkward x

Thanks pursuit.. Fingers crossed