Quick Question

[SchoolyardShizz]

If you loved a partner, would their lack of ambition put you off? Is it enough to call it a day?

A friend is in a bit of a dilemma

No. So long as we were financially managing/

If your friend thinks their partner is the one with the problem, the clock is ticking already.

I think it's tough when one partner yearns for something more out of life and the other is content where they are. You cannot change an adult who does not want or welcome change. AFAIK there's no way to make someone ambitious, it either happens within that person or it doesn't.

If you're a person who fundamentally sees ambition as important, you're not going to gel long-term with someone who doesn't.

And by "ambition" I just mean finding it fun and rewarding to make plans, strive, better yourself, save for the future and any children etc, whatever form that takes. Not necessarily become head of an investment bank.

People make the mistake of conflating ambition with corporateness. I expect some of the most ambitious, driven, dedicated people in the country do things like live off-grid and run smallholdings, because it takes those qualities.

Depends what you mean by "ambition". If you mean would I steer clear of anyone other than high-flying executives or investment bankers, pop stars, top drawer sportsmen or politicians, no I would probably avoid those sorts of people as they generally would have to put their career ahead of everything else.

But and I have discovered this to my cost from personal experience its hard to be happy over the long term with someone who doesn't have their shit together and has no goals or desire to improve themself at all and is essentially relying on you to do all the heavy lifting.