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stopping/ending a friendship

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fromparistoberlin · 23/01/2014 10:33

as we enter into 2014 I have decided I really need to something about a friendship that is causing me angst and stress.

I will keep it concise:

both me and my (male/gay) friend have neurotic/depressive tendancies (at times!), so think we dont gel
in 2012 he had a very bad year, and I tried to be there for him to talk
he talked about it ALOT
in 2013 I had a not great year
at some stage in 2013 we had a fall out as when he asked "am I selifsh" myself and a mutual friend (drink/big mistake) said yes, but said more in the context of the fact that single gay people with alot of dispoable income "can" be selfish

anyway, he want bat shit and we had a fall out when he said:

he resented travelling to my house to come and see me and my kids
he got fucked off when I suggested always going to cheaper places to eay and drink
that he was NOT selfish, as he always bought me and kids expensive gifts
that I was enabling DPs sometimes EA abusive behaviour

plus weird behaviour ongoing, I cant be arsed to do into it but shit like ignoring texts, arse licking other mutual friends, bla bla bla

haha now I have read this its almost cut and dried isn't it? but how does one tactfully end a friendship? I want to spend my limitied time and money with people i LIKE, and we have shared friendship group

sorry, just needed to type this out!!!

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iamonthepursuitofhappiness · 23/01/2014 11:21

I would just pull back on contact (texting/calls) and not be able to make it if he suggested meeting up. I don't think you necessarily need to tell him the friendship is over as it could just be that at the moment you are in two different places.

fromparistoberlin · 23/01/2014 14:37

thanks iam, wise advice. Absaloutly everything cuases me angst these days, so a less dramatic approach is wise x

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