in shock...just found out ex is seeing someone

[onewaytkt]

ex left me 3 months ago after 15 yrs.we have 2 children,i just thought he was having a midlife crisis,and we would sort it.just found out from mutual friend he is in a relationship! i feel numb,and my mind is racing wondering wot he was upto while we were together,as he moved on pretty quick.i feel sick and dont know wot to do.

no real advice just wanted to reply and send you none mumsnet((((hugs))))! however do you still speak?

Had there been any conversation that led you to believe that there may be a reconciliation? Are you still on talking terms...

I dont think there is much you can do at the moment other than regroup...I know how you feel though , my situation was very similar, my husband however was still staying at home when I though he was having his midlife crisis..he moved in with the OW, it is devastating, especially when you are totally unaware to it all as I was.

My ex (of 6 years) met someone new in 3 weeks after our split. I am disgusted by this.

So I completly feel your pain & anger! How can they move on so quickly. His is a full on relationship, stays out overnight, teddy on his pillow off her. We're still living in the same house - it's up for sale.

I just want him to go so I can move on.

Tons of hugs to you

thanks.yes we do,thats the strange thing,i thought we were getting on great,but now im thinking allkinds.

think you need to talk.........

no conversation i just thought,as we getting on so well

I know its hard, but try not to think too much on what he was doing while you were still together. Some people are just able to move on very quickly and compartmentalise (is that even a word??) whats going on which is what he may have done. I spent months analysing our life together...and you will most likely do that, but try and not let it consume you...it left me in a very dark place for a long time.