Ever bloody year !

[Thattimeofyearagain]

So ncd for this, generally rib along with dh ok, been together over 20 years, but for every one of those years ( except last year ) he has started an argument/ sulking in the week before my birthday ( big birthday last year, so organised a lovely weekend away, kids prompted !!)
I thought he had turned over a new leaf, but no, its my birthday this weekend, and right on scedule hes started sniping and moaning.
Just a rant, hes ok the rest of the year.

Hes fine about dc birthdays, the arguments are not about my birthday, just always happen the week before.

Does he buy you presents for your birthday?

He really doesn't want to celebrate your birthday at all then. Plan a nice time with your dd and reduce the effort for his.

Leave him behind and plan something nice without him.

Well, he turned up at my work while I was on lunch . Someone, I'm thinking dd , had pointed out to him he was being am arse.
Apology of sorts, yes he has got a present.

My partner is like that. All my birthdays r shit. All anniversaries r shit. Very sad because I always want to do something nice on my birthday and our anniversary! :(
I really understand op... I think u should just do something nice with dd and then with your friends. Without him.

I have this too and it makes me sad 14 years in! I have to learn to expect nothing and do my own thing but I just never manage to fully believe that and so every year i too feel let down. Even my 40th was ignored! He is great in other ways though and it is about an attitude to birthdays. He has just about got used to the dc birthdays but they've been known to wrap their own Xmas presents! I advise op to make it super special with no expectation that he'll join in. AND I will hereby swear that I will follow my own advice when my birthday comes round!!