Pregnant after two months of dating

[Lala1996]

Pregnant after two months of dating. He was happy at first now freaking out.

That's probably understandable. How do you feel about it? Is your username your age? If so you must only be 17 or 18? Do you want to keep the baby? Do you see a long term future for you and partner?

Sorry for all the questions jugs don't want to leave you on your own at this time of the morning.

Just not jugs!!!

Hello Lala, welcome to MN.

So what is your question exactly? Are you 'surprised^ that he is freaking out, when he's known you five minutes and you've told him he's about to become a father? I assume you've told him you intend to have the baby?

whoops, italics fail there.

If what you're saying is that your 'freaking out' boyfriend is unhappy about the pregnancy, then you probably have to work on the basis that you'll be going through whatever happens next alone. It's pretty daunting but, with help from friends, family and some other agencies, it is possible. Do others know you're pregnant?

If 'freaking out' means your boyfriend has become aggressive or violent then take urgent steps to keep yourself safe.

I think it's totally natural to panic when you find out you/your partner is pregnant, even if it's planned. A baby is a huge commitment and not something you enter into lightly - but even if it's planned out, the reality often doesn't hit until you get a positive test or you go for your first scan.

Have you been using contraception? I assume you know that it's your boyfriend's? Are you planning on keeping the baby and does he want to be involved? If not, you can go through the CSA and make sure he pays maintenance but unfortunately, you can't force him to see you or the baby, or to have contact if it's not what he wants.

OP this must be a surprise for you too. How do you feel? Have you got RL support?

The same thing happend to me when I was in my ealy 20s. For me it was a very easy decision to have an abortion, there was no way I was going to have a baby at that point in my life and with someone so untested. Although we went on to have a happy long-term relationship it was very much the right decision.

I agree with the others that it is natural for your boyfriend to be freaking out. Depending on what if any birth control you were using this may be very unexpected. I think you do have to make any decision on the basis that he won't be around.

I was with my partner 3 months when i found out i was pregnant.

..roll on 5 years, 2 dds and we're getting married in a few months.

Its normal to freak out.

What's he actually said? Doing?

And congratulations! :)

It must have come as a shock to you too, do you have family support close by?