Please help I want to leave my Husband but young children are involved

[bigbaddomswife]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1946423-How-to-move-on-after-an-affair

Please forgive me as Im not as clever as most women on this website (English is not my first language), however, I am the woman who the thread above refers to.

We have 2 Dcs 4 year old and 1 year old, I gave up my good job (by mutual consent) to be a SAHM, been together for 8 years & I have no self-esteem, soul or life left. I feel as if my successful, good-looking, confident, attractive, well-educated Husband is controlling/bullying me. My Mother/Father and Sister don't speak to me because Im with him, DC's love him, His Brother & my Brother love him, he has plenty of friends who love him. I have no friends left after I married him.

In respect to the affair, I e-mailed/texted a man for 4 weeks. The man was funny, happy, non-judgemental, kind, sweet and made me feel happy. I know this was wrong and it was a stupid, stupid thing to de, I have NO excuses.

Throughout our marriage,my Husband had been out with young pretty women, flirting, receiving late evening secretive messages from many many pretty women over the 8 years. I even saw leaving books from his work place with him surrounded by 8 gorgeous women, drinking in a circle, some were kissing him on the Cheek.

Even though my self esteem is destroyed I love reading Mumsnet and all the responses from strong to get rid of bullying men. My Husband is a Bully.

2 young DC, Zero family/friend support, no confidence and a smart controlling Husband, what do you think?

You want out so that's what I suggest you do.

But as your husband reads what you write, I wouldn't say it was your best idea to post this.

Where will you go big?

Or will you ask him to go?

I suggest that, as you're married, you get some legal and other practical advice. When your relationship has broken down, when you have no friends for support, and when your confidence is low, you have to turn to professionals to act as your back-up. If you're being controlled, bullied, isolated etc then Womens Aid would be a good place to refer to... 0800 2000 247. Your story will be very familiar to them and they'll be able to point you in the right direction and help you make a plan.

BTW... if your family don't speak to you because they don't like him, why not write to them, say 'you were right' and tell them you're planning to leave? Families tend to come good in times of crisis.

Thank you so much. I will take your advice. My family did stop speaking to me because of him, I'll consider getting in touch with them. I have no idea where I will go but will get in touch with Womans Aid.

Ton - I'll also take your advice and bin this post as H does watch me Xx

Stay safe.

You could move this thread to OTBT or change your username if you would like to continue to receive support here.

WA will help you formulate a plan, and will be able to recommend you a solicitor who is experienced in cases involving emotional abuse.

Good luck and come back if you need help. xx