Red flag? Mentioning the ex

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Have been seeing a guy for about 4 weeks now, all going really well. We were talking about my rabbit this evening, and I asked him if he liked rabbits (random I know). Anyway he said he liked them, but not his ex's as it was vicious. This is the first time he has mentioned his ex, isn't this a big no no? This dating malarky is new to me! I just changed the subject and no more was said about it. Is it a red flag?

ermm no.

If he didn't spit the word Ex while foaming at the mouth then I wouldn't say there's anything to indicate a problem. And some rabbits are agressive, maybe it genuinley was visious.

I'd have used the mention of the ex as a Segway into finding out his dating history, and sharing mine.

That's where the red flags are!

No. People very often have exes and sometimes they mention them.

Very good point, Billy. OP, it's only a red flag if he mentions her all the time or says she was evil :)

Red flag mentions are like

'All my exes have been nutters'

That type of thing
If you get told that, remember the one common denominator in those relationships was him, and if you split you'll be labelled the same and added to that list.
HTH

My ExP hadn't got a good thing to say about any of his exes. All 3 of his serious relationships (4 if you include me) were ended by the woman. Makes me wonder now of course.

He's met someone else, very very quickly which is suspect and of course I will be classed now as a bitter, nasty ex.

If there is a red flag - he seems to date women who keep rabbits - do you no what his favourite stew is or what type of coat he likes to wear?

Sailing..;-)

A few days ago met a accidental gay passing by :-P

Well he ask me to try something( have to admit excellent product)
he told me to rub it,rub it rub it

Week later I'm still smiling when I think about him
rabbit rabbit rabbit..:-D

Think it's a bit unrealistic to expect him never to mention an ex. When I got with partner he'd been with his ex 15 years so was kind of difficult for him not to mention her sometimes.

I thought you were talking about vibrators.

I did too.

Hardly a red flag, he mentioned it to relate to the topic. I would find it more strange if he never talked about an ex at all.

Vicious vibrators?

She's referring to Oryctolagus cuniculus rather than Rabbitus Oragasmicus

Rabbitus orgasmicus

(pedantic)

Rabbitus orgasmicus

Oops! Correct. I'd blame my iPhone, except I'm not using one

Would a vicious rampant rabbit sell, though?

We were talking about my rabbit this evening, and I asked him if he liked rabbits

At this point in the conversation, how clear was it that you were both talking about the same kind of rabbit?

I have just started seeing somebody and we mention ex's in passing depending on what the conversation is. We have discussed why our marriages broke up, but not in huge detail. It's difficult not to sometimes when you have been with somebody for a long time...

conversation, when was the last time you went abroad... answer - my honeymoon..... difficult not to answer the question without mentioning the ex .

I am very careful however not to rant on about what a lying cheating bastard he was and how I hate all men. I think that would be a red flag for the new bloke .

It's not an issue to mention his ex in passing. Would you rather pretend he has never had a relationship before?! If he's constantly mentioning his ex then it might be a issue in that he's not really over her, but it could equally be that he has spent a lot of time considering his ex's likes and dislikes and referring to her, so it may take some time to reset his mind on that one.