It's not possible for me to leave at the moment as I don't work, and haven't for several years. I couldn't afford to keep this house on if he left, which he wouldn't do anyway.
It's a case of nothing I do ever being right, or any good in his eyes. We both decided I'd be a SAHM. Because of his work hours (works a lot of nights away and weekends) I can't work around his hours. He says he's happy with this, then when he's in a bad mood he has a go at me for not having a job. We don't need the money, he just wants to have a go at me. He'll suddenly say 'So what jobhunting have YOU done today then?' and then I'm in the wrong.
He says I never do anything for him but I do all the housework, cleaning, washing, cooking etc. When I ask him what he means he won't elaborate. He also will never talk about things and just ignores me if I try to calmly talk.
When he's in a mood and picks an argument he says all kinds of thing that are below the belt. Last night it was that I am 'odd' and various other things. He also continually tells me I need to be able to take constructive criticism.
I'm never allowed to be ill. He couldn't care less about me if I'm ill or under the weather.
Yesterday he picked a fight because my nan gave me some money to treat myself so I had a spa morning with a friend. Nothing fancy or expensive, just a swim and a sauna. I could tell DH was cross about it then last night he picked a fight and started having a go at me for sitting down at 10 last night as I'd been 'relaxing all day'.
He used to respect me before I was a SAHM but now he acts more and more like he's my boss. I end up doing what he wants, or what I think he'll want me to do, all the time, and still he gets angry. Nothing makes him happy. I was going to do some voluntary work to fit in with school hours but he was cross about that too.