Rebound relationship

[louby44]

I split from my partner 6 weeks ago. My decision totally as he was very unkind to my 2 DS. It's a long story. He has anger and communication issues and I've found the split a lot easier than I thought I would - I feel relief. He has very quickly met someone within 3 weeks! My only problem is that we are stuck living together until we sell the house.

Anyway, I have met a very old male friend who has asked me out this weekend. I really am unsure what to do. In one way I'm enjoying the time to do my own thing but am very,very tempted to meet up and see what happens.

Is it too soon? I mean he isn't proposing marriage it's just a drink?

My only regret is the skinny jeans I bought and wore last night are too big. I've lost over a stone since the beginning of December and still think I'm bigger than I am!

Oh well!

What a great problem to have ha ha. Congratulations on losing the weight, especially over Christmas and New Year. (Although I'm sure it was mostly stress due to the split ...)

Louby, glad to hear it went well, we can go on this rebound relationship journey together, LOL! I also bought new jeans and mine are too big now, it is a bitch because they were from karen Millen and so bloody expensive!

My new 'friend' texted me 'good luck' this morning (Uni related) and I bit the bullet and asked him out tomorrow because we are both off work and I will not have a day off/child free time until the beginning of Feb. There is taking it slow and taking it slow, kwim?

Enjoy the moment! I am deciding to place some faith in things happening for a reason and just enjoying it while it lasts

happiness that is great! I'm so pleased for you.

My second date is set for Saturday. This is fine as I can't be late back, my DC will be home and I won't be tempted to stay out all night...iykwim!

I too am thinking slowly, slowly. Things do happen for a reason.

Oh, gosh, the thought of taking things further at the moment is terrifying! The thought of revealing my post-baby body to someone is like a living nightmare!

Oo louby,you go girl.glad you had fab time:-)

happiness have you seen you 'friend' again.

I forgot how up & down this relationship stuff can be. My 2nd date has been moved to Sunday! Not a problem but one more day to wait!

Ahh well!

No i've not and i'm not sure what's going on...

He sent me a message on Tuesday after I saw him saying 'thank you for making me smile' to which I replied 'You make me smile too!' and since then not a sausage :-/

He was on annual leave and went back to work the next day and he does work shifts/unsociable hours. We didn't arrange to meet up as he wasn't sure what his offduty was and neither did I as I return to placement next week.

I texted him earlier, having found out what my shifts are, and said 'Have my offduty for next week...If you are free on Tuesday or Wednesday morning to meet for coffee and/or walk the dogs, perhaps we could revisit 'the kiss'?'. No reply yet.

I find the whole thing unnerving, not exciting at all!!!!

Yeah I think unnerving is a good way to describe it! Hoping he texts you! keep busy and enjoy your weekend.

Did he give a reason for having to postpone louby?

Yes it was a genuine reason. I did give him Sat or Sun as options.

I split up with my ex h and met a man 6 weeks later. I wasn't interested what so ever in a relationship but we became good friends for the best part of 6 months. Took me that time to realise what a lovely man he was. We started s relationship and a lot of people criticised us both, sayin I was on rebound and I would only end up hurting him. 12 years on we are still together and have just had our 4th child. Go for it. Life s too short!

Ahh kazza that's a lovely story! I aren't looking for a full on relationship - too hurt and scared to be honest.

I shall never buy a house with a man again or have any financial agreements together with a man. But hindsight is a wonderful thing isn't it!

From now on it's me and my two DS!

Kazza, that gives me hope....Not on this occssion as I feel certain he would have contacted me by now, ho hum, it was a killer kiss

Ahh the no contact is a pain!

Well, i've deleted his number from my phone now as I was getting the urge to call him up and that is just wrong after such a short space of time. If he calls, he calls, I suppose shrugs

Louby, good luck this evening, keep us posted. Nothing new to report my end but c'est la vie!

He called!