Is it weird that I've had no contact from dp all day?

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Dp has gone away to a work awards do/party today. He had to be at work really early as they were having breakfast laid on then were being driven to a hotel about an hour and a half away.
I sent a text on my lunch break to ask how it was going and he replied 'ok a bit boring really' but that's it! That's the only contact we have had all day. If it was me going staying in a nice hotel I'd text him about the room and food and how it was going in general or give him and the dc's a quick ring when alone in the room. I know he was allowed a little downtime and had time to do this.
Now I'm not clingy and don't suspect anything dodgy and I'm not pissed off but just think it's strange that he's not thought to ring or text.
I would.

I think by writing this post you don't trust him and think you've answered your own post.

He's not you.

Let him crack on.. you'll see him soon enough and he can tell you all about it then.

I'd assume he was chatting to colleagues, making contacts, having dinner, showering...

You have had contact with him!

I wouldn't do more than that. I'm not much of a texter/phoner unless I have something to say.

I wouldn't expect any contact in these circumstances, but it's really about what is normal in your relationship isn't it ?

I do trust him, honest!

I get that he's busy and having a good time and I'm glad as he doesn't get to do it often enough and I suppose that it's good to take a complete day out as it's pretty full on at home with 3 dc's and both of us working but a couple of years ago we would have had probably had contact throughout the day and now we don't and it's made me a bit sad.
Maybe it's a growing apart thing I'm worried about and I'm sensitive about it and overthinking.

He's busy. You are a bit jealous. That's it - nothing more sinister,

I can understand feeling a smite sad but he's not away for long. Do you get out much together away from the kids sometimes?

Maybe his battery is flat.

Honestly, when I'm away it just doesn't occur to me to text about the room and the food. It's just not that interesting. And work trips tend to be pretty busy anyway.

Not arsed that he's away. A teensy bit envious that it's not me drinking the night away in a lovely hotel but watching bb in peace eating Aldi buttons so not all bad!
Also wasn't going to mention it tomorrow when he's home.

I'm a texter and my dp is not. if I'm out I'll text him quite often just because, where as he won't. just something I'm use to. I wouldn't worry.

How many texts would he normally send during the day?

When my dh is away he often doesn't contact me til night time when he's got a minute to himself. I've never thought that strange!

Days like that are busy though, and things like checking in and meeting up for a drink before dinner always take far longer than you think they will.

In his window of downtime he was probably getting a shower and hanging up his shirt for tomorrow!

Unless there is any other reason why you would view this with suspicion I would just assume he was busy and think nothing more of it.

Secret from your last post I would say that as you feel sad that things aren't the same as they were awhile ago that perhaps you could try to find that closeness you had before .....again. No reason why you cant get it back.

Yep I think you're right Milly. Thanks all.

DH wouldn't think to phone or text in this situation. I would. We are just different.

I am a texter whilst out. DP used to be more at the beginning of our relationship but isn't now. He really only replies to me or lets me know when he will be home etc when I am usually texting asking what is he up to, is he and the boys ok, saying how much I miss them and so on when I should be relaxing and enjoying my bloody self whilst I have the chance

Just text him saying that you hope that his night is going well and you can't wait to get him back home and wait for his reply. He is probably just busy. He will no doubt reply soon.

(To attempt to get the closeness back I mean)

I wouldn't worry at all. I don't think to text at all when I am out or at work; I would usually only text if a) I was bored and needed company (not likely in your husbands case), b) there was a change of plans or I was going to be delayed, or c)... Nope that's it.

My husband is the same; it wouldn't occur to him to text although we would probably speak or have some kind of contact late at night... Maybe!

I'm not a texter or phoner. Doesnt help that DH is dyslexic so if I do text all I get back is something like 'ok' or 'fine'.

If you travel a fair bit for work then very quickly you come to the conclusion that one hotel is very much like another. You dont want 'boutique' or 'charm' you just want the shower to work.

Hope you feeling happier today, Strait.

I never txt or phone when I am away with work. Networking is exhausting and business hotels are never that interesting

A man aint gonna phone you and discuss the interiors of the bedroom. You are really over thinking or are that bored you're consuming yourself with something totally irrelevant.