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How to return to marital bed - and a snorer!

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hex · 27/07/2006 22:21

DH and I have been sleeping separately (taking it in turns to get up to dd) and now she's settled a bit at night, I'd love nothing more than to return to the marital bed. Problem is, dh's snoring has got worse - and now that the baby is virtually sleeping through, I don't really want disturbed nights by his snoring. Hate earplugs - so these not an option.
Any one any solutions - please?

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notasheep · 27/07/2006 22:26

make appointment for him to see his GP-does he lay on his back?

ocd · 27/07/2006 22:27

i use ear plucs

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hex · 27/07/2006 22:31

I've got this feeling that the sounds seems to be coming from his nose (!??) not mouth (is that possible??). He lies on his back sometimes but the snoring comes even when he lies on his side.

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hex · 27/07/2006 22:32

I've got this feeling that the sounds seems to be coming from his nose (!??) not mouth (is that possible??). He lies on his back sometimes but the snoring comes even when he lies on his side.
What's 'sleep apnea'?? (sp??) - would this be it?

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Angeliz · 27/07/2006 22:33

Have another baby and he'll be in the sapre room for years
That's my plan!

notasheep · 27/07/2006 22:34

dp snores on his back-so much so i then sleep on sofa,however when he sleeps on his stomach he is fine

Angeliz · 27/07/2006 22:35

Sorry, being flippant.
My dp has tried everything except surgery and i can still hear him in the next room.
It would be lovely to have the closeness, (although i do co-sleep with dd and am due again soon so was only half joking before), but i just cannot sleep through it and earplugs are not an option.

Beauregard · 27/07/2006 22:37

my dp has to sleep downstairs because of his snoring ,we did find a solution up until i had dd2 and developed insomnia,we used fans as the white noise gave me something else to listen to.

orangegiraffe · 27/07/2006 22:38

What about snoring remedies and do they work?

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hex · 27/07/2006 22:41

Yes I miss the closeness and don't really want to spend the rest of our lives sleeping separately. His father's got a snore like a foghorn (I guess his mother must be a better sleeper than me).
Is there a way of desensitising me as an alternative? I tried taking herbal sleep remedy and it worked for a couple of nights but then I think your body gets used to it and it's less effective and I dont want to take it every night either. It's got to the point now where I get so mad that I wake him up! (like in my middle of the night rage I think well why should he sleep!- although it cures it for a moment, we're both walking around like zombies the next day and are grumpy cause neither of us have had an undisturbed night. Crazy!

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hex · 27/07/2006 22:42

ried so ething you squirted up your nose coiple of years ago - didn't work much. Is there anything else?

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SaintGeorge · 27/07/2006 22:42

I was surprised to find that the little nose clip things you can get do help. They haven't stopped dh snoring but the volume and intensity is certainly a lot lower.

Angeliz · 27/07/2006 22:44

There's a gum sheild trhat has to be fit to their mouth. (i.e it gets moulded for them, can't remember where we got it) but it works only for a short while, is VEY uncomfortable and made DP gag!

jasper · 28/07/2006 00:20

Is he overweight?
Most snorers are and are "cured " by losing weight.
My dh snored loudly untill recently when he lost about 2 stone.
he does not snore at all now.
Good luck. It is a horrid problem, isn't it?

spangles · 28/07/2006 09:02

My DH was the same... snored so loud we slept in seperate rooms, and I could still hear him even though I wore ear plugs.
He went to see his GP and he ended up having surgery to remove the dangly thing at the back of his throat and his tonsills. It did the trick and although he does snore occaisionally we sleep in the same room now without the need for ear plugs.

DumbledoresGirl · 28/07/2006 09:09

If it is that bad, get him to go the GP. My dh snores and it got so bad it was waking me up and I sleep through anything! He had a minor operation on his nose and I can't say it has stopped him snoring, but it is no longer so bad that it wakes me up. If he falls asleep before me, the snoring can prevent me getting to sleep so I have to keep kicking him until he stops long enough for me to drop off!

Rookiemum · 28/07/2006 12:40

We had this problem as well and it was horrendous.

We discovered that Rookiedads snoring was made worse by extreme tiredness and the fact he had been having several large glasses red wine and or whiskey to help him sleep. Once he cut down on the drinking & was over the horrendouse first 6-8 weeks then problem got a bit better. Did he snore before dd ?
Maybe you could try to ease your way back to the marital bed by doing a couple of nights together per week.
Also try and get over the ear plugs thing,I wear them and it means that now DH hears DS before I do if he wakes up atnight (evil laugh from Rookiemum).....

SauerKraut · 28/07/2006 13:07

After a cuddle, I turn upside down in the bed- that way, the snoring is at least no longer right in my ear. It makes it easier to concentrate on other things until I drop off. Good luck- it's driven me crazy too! And why is it that snorers can never believe it of themselves....

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