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How do I put it nicely?

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JellyNump · 27/07/2006 21:54

Dh and I have dd who is nearly 5 months. DH works a 12 hour 3 day on/off rota. DD is normally asleep when he goes to work, or has just woken up and will lie on the bed chattering and smiling at him as he gets ready for work. When he gets home she is normally asleep but sometimes wakes up for a late feed before going back to bed and greets him with a huge grin. When he is on his 3 day off he sleeps in late, if I get up in the morning to go to the bathroom and she wakes up and cries, he doesn't see to her, he stays asleep. During the day he is either parked in front of the oc or TV or/and has his phone glued to his ear. Today she quite obviously pleased that he was at home, but when she got a bit grisly because she was tired/teething he just said' be quiet, I need to concentrate!' I pointed out that she doens't know any other way to communicate. I feel really sad for her because she is obviously a daddy's girl and is so pleased to have him home and just wants some attention and for him to play with her. If I ask him to look after him while I cook dinner or wash up etc he thinks its ok to just plonk her in her chair or on her mat with her toys round her while he watches TV and seems to get frustrated when she cries. How do I politely introduce my foot to his ass and point this out to him??? I'm supposed to be going back to work soon full time because of our house sale situation and I'm so worried. I did think of making him a time table with play times and times for her food etc so he has no excuse. It like having to supervise a child looking after a baby and I shouldn't have to.

OP posts:
Crystaltips · 27/07/2006 22:15

... why do you feel that you need to be polite ?

I'd not accept this behaviour - sorry.

notasheep · 27/07/2006 22:25

men are lazy boys,go out and let him take responsibility

bwfc121 · 27/07/2006 22:25

unfortunately some men are like this with babies, mine was though he did try occaisionaly. He did get better slowly. But maybe you actually have to leave him with her and go out even if only for an hour, he will have to look after her then. You could sit and talk to him and say you FEEL upset about the situation BUT dont blame him or he will geat very defensive men do, offer to show him how and to make it fun, might just work, good luck

ocd · 27/07/2006 22:26

oh byut men find mamies borign i think
iw as obseesed that dhditn like ds1
babis are just dull

Gingeme · 27/07/2006 22:51

The thing you should always do with men is make a suggestion but make it seem like his idea that way hes more likely to follow it through. Never have a go at them or blame them because you wont get any head way. And always 'would you.....?' and not could you or cant you. Trust me this works wonders in many situations with many males of different ages .

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