sex and orgasms

[principalitygirl]

Two quetions:

• I know that pelvic floor muscles are v linked to frequency and quality of orgasm. But does having an orgasm itself improve the pelvic floor muscles and in turn, future orgasms IYSWIM? I can still O but not back to pre-baby intensity yet...
• DH and I are in a dry patch sex-wise. Is it true that making the effort to do it more will make me want it more? It's almost always good when it happens.

I don't know about an O helping with the pelvis but definitely, the more you do it, the more you'll want it.

My pelvic floor muscles are wrecked.

But I found orgasming much easier after birth of ds. Are pelvic floor muscles and orgasms related? Mine pv is crap, yet I orgasm really easily

Sex is like steak, don't always fancy it but as soon as you have it you remember how good it really is )))

Def I have lots of friend who agree that if you get out of the habit of having sex then it kind of becomes a chore and you can't be bothered, but once they actually make the effort they remember how good it actually is and want it more, but life and kids etc can get in the way

May be I'd try Pelvic floor muscles. I have not orgasmed since getting married.

I don't see how they relate and I haven't noticed any difference, but then I don't orgasm through penetration.

I have no children and think i have 'good' pelvic floor muscles, but have never orgasmed through penetration alone. So no sure how much of an effect they have. I do mostly manage to 'O' when we have sex either during foreplay or with PIV plus extra stimulation. Sorry if tmi.

And yes its true, the more you have the more you want. It is very easy to get out of the habit.

I have no pelvic floor, more of a pelvic basement

And I don't much enjoy sex either.

HTH.

I have very strong pelvic floor muscles and have powerful orgasms, but can't see how the 2 are related really?

Yes the more I have sex the more I want it.

Yes, the contractions during orgasm are basically kegels, so it will help improve things slightly, but only so much as doing a few seconds of kegels will...it's not nearly enough to make a real difference unless you're having 25 orgasms a day.

Exercising the pelvic floor muscles improves orgasm for a few reasons. -The stronger the muscle the more nerve endings.
-The stronger the muscle the more powerful the contractions are during orgasm.
-Exercise improves circulation and the better the circulation down there the more sensitive the clitoris becomes. Doing kegels before or during sex increases blood flow to the area, which will help things along.
-For many women squeezing the muscles during sex or masturbation increases arousal and helps bring on an orgasm. If the pelvic floor is weak, this may not be possible or won't have much of an effect.

And yes, the more you do it the more you'll want it. Partly because once you get stuck in the rut of not having sex, it's easy to see minor inconveniences as huge barriers preventing you from having sex. Whereas if you're having sex regularly you know it's possible to find the time because you've already managed it 3 times this week.

Ability to orgasm / quality of orgasm - however you get there - are definitely linked to a (strong) pelvic floor. Lots of references online e.g.

www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/1063.aspx?CategoryID=52&

I def don't feel my muscles contract as much when I orgasm now compared with before baby.

Sounds like we just need to get stuck in with making sex happen
more often. Other stuff does so often get in the way though unfortunately.

Didn't know pelvic floor muscles and orgasm quality was related?

Definitely related IMO!! Mine improve immeasurably in intensity/duration and overall sensation when i really practice kegels diligently. Seemed to take a few weeks (following Gusset Grippers advice/regime - she's on MN, not sure how to link) but the change was immense!