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School holidays - what's the standard set up please?

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Aknowinggrin · 14/01/2014 12:55

So XH and I are separated and looking at starting divorce proceedings. He currently has the DC every other Sat-Sun and one week day every week. He is against having DC more than two weeks in the summer and a couple of days here and there during the rest of the school holidays... I work full time and as they are with me four out of five midweek days, that means I'll be responsible for covering costs for holiday clubs etc during all other school holidays/half terms etc (he does not contribute to any childcare, just the basic child maintenance amount).

AIBU thinking that school holidays should be split up more evenly, regardless of how many nights he has the DC usually?

Also, he's refusing to share the DC at Christmas (i.e Christmas day with each of us alternate years), he's adamant he WILL spend Christmas day with them every year.....

So I guess my question is .... what's everyone doing re school holidays/Christmas?

Thanks!

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Lonecatwithkitten · 14/01/2014 12:57

My solicitor recommended half the holidays each and alternating Christmas as being fairly standard.
Have you considered mediation to discuss it all?

Aknowinggrin · 14/01/2014 13:13

Thank you, that's what I thought ... he will not agree to mediation (and believe me, I've tried...)

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