How much did your divorce cost and how did you finance it?

[PPaka]

And was it straightforward or contested?
I have no idea how people do it

[wiseoldowl]

Cotton
my Xh moved in with Ow after 6 months...my mum saw his clothes going in the house! But he always denied it,I revisited & revisited,kept on & on with sols but no advantage whatsoever..
Judge said whether or not he was with ow he still had to have house/money to live (grrr even though their house paid for by her ex settlement).

[handfulofcottonbuds]

wiseoldowl - I am getting more and more anxious about mediation now having been totally NC for a month. I was told that a court requires mediation too unless the OH is abusive and it won't work.

I thought the moving in would work in my advantage but I know that the judge doesn't look at blame but the fairest way for all. I know they won't take OW's income into account but between them they earn approximately £150k a year and I'm on £22k.

Sorry to derail thread PPaka

[angel1976]

handfulofcottonbuds - There is a specific question on the financial form that asks if either of you have any intention of moving in with a new partner within the next 6 months. The mediator lawyer explained it in the way that while you cannot claim on their joint income, you can argue that because they have moved in together or planning to move in together your STBXH will now have a higher disposable income because his costs are now lower. You can claim that because he has a higher disposable income, you should have more of it (if you need it). But I think it's one of those things that I really have no idea how you can prove and also I have a feeling if the other party denies and denies it, it could go on and on and incur more and more legal costs.

[handfulofcottonbuds]

Thanks for clarifying that angel. I think I'm in for a long fight

[Follyfoot]

About £11,000 and that was about 15 years ago.

[mrscynical]

About £4k but his cost £25k. I had no money but paid the solicitor back monthly once it was sorted out. I came out relatively well and was satisfied with the result. This was a good few years ago now and he is now divorcing his third wife! He has nothing left

[RollerCola]

About £800 fixed fees for my solicitor. That includes court fees. We have 2 dcs and a house, H is not using a solicitor. We have agreed finances ourselves amicably.

[wiseoldowl]

There is a specific question on the form e..have you or do you intend to move in with new partner. My XH lied!
I went to court on a principal...was told if he had & we went to final hearing judge would want her finances....I couldnt afford to stick to my principles & continue.
What could I do..take him to court for fraud? I couldn't afford it.

[MuttonCadet]

£410, no solicitors, agreed a sensible split of assets, I paid it out of my monthly wages.
DH cost him £5k, but that's because of the solicitors involvement, his ex would have paid similar - which was almost all the equity they had.........

[Pleasetryan0ther]

£400 quid, he paid. (I think he wanted to move in with his new GF). Amicable and no complex finances, we'd split the house and I didn't want his pension, which I am sure I will regret when I am old and drinking tea from a jar.

[meikyo]

£18000.... Still paying the loan off...nightmare

[littleblackno]

I can't remember exactly. I know I got legal aid for the most part (4years ago) but there were some things I had to pay for such as mediation, court fees and the legal costs of remortgaging to get his name off. I had some savings, my dad gave me some money and some got added to the mortgage.
I've no idea what it cost him.

[questionablelegality]

I refinanced the house and took 10,000 out in equity. The Ex was too stupid to notice and just signed on the dotted line. I cashed the check when it came in and put the cash in a safe deposit box my friend had.The bank statement with the cashing of the check on it just didnt show up and again Ex was too stupid to notice ( it was in the days before on line banking was common). When I had to supply 3 years worth of financial stuff to his lawyer,I handed over all the bank statements bar that one,no one noticed.I had done this almost a year prior to filing for divorce figuring they would go through the more recent ones more thoroughly. I had a plan you see

The divorce cost me 9,500 because the ex was too stupid to know he was beat and couldnt intimidate the judge or my bulldog lawyer.

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

As we'd agreed the division of the very few assets between us already and as there were no children involved, the divorce cost each of us a few hundred only.