Lack of support?

[Dorisdaisy]

Feeling depressed tearful emotional. Husband being prat. The last 4yrs I've developed whereas my dp hasnt. He seems to show no love. I stopped drinking every night (only a couple of glasses) and mentioned that sex was better sober he still drinks. He's called me 'big fat mumma' on a numerous occations i told him to stop it this week, he knows i'm trying to loose weight but does nothing to help. I feel unloved He is happy with his 'lot' apart from football/drinking he has no social life, but i am wondering do i want this for the rest of my life. I don't! I feel warn out with the constant working studying/home responsiblites just taken out a huge mortgage which comes out of my bank account. He said he would help more financially, but doesnt.
What can I do?

What do you want to do?

I want to feel loved appriciated and supported. I have asked him for support with drinking I will say 'i feel soo much better since i stopped' He clearly has a problem but wont admit it. Obviously again with weight, I'd like to loose a couple of stone but he seems to sabbortor my attempts with his lack of support. Sex is once in a blue moon so I'm frustrated. I want a partner who respects me too. Perhaps i need to sit him down again and clearly explain my feelings been married for 23yrs. But have done this before and while initially he takes it on board nothing happens long term. Does this make sense?

I want to feel loved appriciated and supported. I have asked him for support with drinking I will say 'i feel soo much better since i stopped' He clearly has a problem but wont admit it. Obviously again with weight, I'd like to loose a couple of stone but he seems to sabbortor my attempts with his lack of support. Sex is once in a blue moon so I'm frustrated. I want a partner who respects me too. Perhaps i need to sit him down again and clearly explain my feelings been married for 23yrs. But have done this before and while initially he takes it on board nothing happens long term. Does this make sense?

If you have been married for 23 years, this has been a long time coming? Has it been like this for years?

Yes, he will agree to something verbally i will feel that he's taken on board what i've suggested but then do nothing. Had a late child he wanted a vasectomy i asked him not to that we might change our minds in a year, that the child may get lonely he replied....'if she gets lonelywe will buy her a dog' went against my wishes had a vasectomy when baby was 5 wks old. Now refuses to accept that we all want a dog. dd is animal mad and knows we all want one but i have explained that daddy wont approve he says im making him look bad!!

I think retail therapy may be the answer! Im off to the next sale!

Do you want to split up?? If you have already spent 23 years of this, have sat him down and he still doesn't support you.....?