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buggermewhatnext · 11/01/2014 18:32

Relationship is over. History of emotional abuse and ex drinking. Been saying it is over for a year now. Am meet with shouting, nastiness when ever this arises. House has been on market for four months now. Am also tryin to rent it.
Atmosphere is truly awful. Just knowing he is coming back makes me feel ill. We had a daughter so keep calm for her. I just keep out of his way.
Latest is him kicking off saying I cant just walk away from the mortgage although he refuses to leave!
It is that bad I would not care if the bank repossed the house! help any ideas or advice on how to get through this
Have applied to rent somewhere but no definite answer from them as yet!!!!

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 11/01/2014 18:41

If the emotional abuse has escalated to aggressiveness and verbal abuse you could contact Womens Aid 0800 2000 247 or the police DV unit on 101 and ask their advice. Does the mortgage company know the situation? You can't 'walk away' from your financial liability exactly but you are not obliged to live in fear.

buggermewhatnext · 11/01/2014 19:02

I know I cant walk away from financial situation and that it could affect credit score future ect.. But I have been saying I want out for a year now. He does not listen to me. I have had the house up for sale for months now, it is also up for rent so hopefully someone wil rent it to buy some time.
The situation is unbearabe it is! He is an agresive bully if things do not go his way. He is six foot tall. He wont be violent as if he does he knows I will go to the police. h
He shouts his head of in front of our poor daughter.
Im at a loss here. Im waiting to see if I can rent- should have done this a year ago as there really is no reasoning with him.

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petalsandstars · 11/01/2014 19:08

Aggression can still be reported if there are any threats as it is seen as domestic violence.

buggermewhatnext · 11/01/2014 19:33

Really petal? from him shouting? Id feel like I was making to much of it although it was bloody awful. I should have recorded him. Just feel bloody helpless I know im not and things will change It s just the here and now thats hard....

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petalsandstars · 11/01/2014 19:50

Yep. As far as I know it is classed as a domestic incident, and if he is aggressive and threatening then he may also be removed from the address.
How long for I couldn't say - but if that does happen it may be helpful to you in future re courts / legal aid.

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