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Resentment towards DP

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butterflyroom · 11/01/2014 12:25

I've been with my DP for nearly 4 years. He's great with my DS from my previous marriage and overall we're pretty happy. We both work but money can be tight as the mortgage is high (bought at wrong time with ExH) and I have debt. He also has his own interests that he pursues and are important to him. I recognise and value that.

I've posted before about our conversations whether to try for a baby or not. This has been going on for a couple of years. We decided that we'd make a final decision by Christmas and at this point I feel that I would like to try but he doesn't want to. I don't know if I can get over this. Maybe time will help. Part of me feels that if I'd met someone else, I might have a more secure family and another child. I know this sounds awful and that's why I feel I can't speak to anyone in RL. This really is my last chance over as I've just turned 39. I feel that my choice is to get over it and get on but I'm worried about resentment building up towards him. Part of me want to end it with him and just focus on me and my DS. I don't know what to do, I just know I'm unhappy and feel unable to confide how I feel to anyone in RL. Thanks for reading.

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onetiredmummy · 11/01/2014 13:12

The baby issue to one side, do you feel secure in this relationship as it is? I kind of get the feeling you are seriously contemplating leaving anyway. Are you close?

Whether to stay or leave is a decision that only you can make. If you decide to maintain the status quo & stay then you may well become resentful & end your relationship in a decade or so. You may not.

All you can do is to make that decision with the facts available to you at the time :) What does your heart tell you to do.

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