Still under the shadow of EA relationship

[SaveMeTheLastGreenTriangle]

Just needing a bit of comforting.....I was in an EA relationship for a few years, it ended in 2010 and I've mostly dealt with the emotional fallout.

Now there is a new problem.

While I was with him he made me working really difficult, and I left 2 jobs at about 12 months each.

I'm ready for a new role now but I'm not getting shortlisted, I think having 2 very short jobs before the one I'm in now makes me look flaky.

There's nothing I can do to change my history. I'm just so angry and upset that he's still controlling me, that the mistakes I made when I was with him are still damaging me.

Sorry you're still feeling the effects of your past, and that missed out on the new job. But there are lots of potential reasons why you mightn't have got this one, eg lots of other well qualified applicants. Even if it were the reason, you did your best at the time!

You managed to keep working despite his treatment of you, and are well set for the future if you keep working hard.

Hello Save, mums net is amazing. If you go on the ea abuse support thread you'll see my post a few moments ago about this! I am trying to leave, work etc and I'm sure you can imagine what he's being like. I'm glad we're not alone. Anyway, I have finally given in and have thrown myself on my mental health local people, went today after I found myself not driving to work. They made me feel better and will help me with aiming to return. I feel like by admitting that I suffer ea, the roller coaster of separation will follow, not quite ready yet.

Don't let him win now, after your bravery of actually leaving. Just leaving is huge. I admire your strength xxxxx

You're assuming it's the two short-term jobs that are hampering your chances but have you asked the companies specifically for feedback? Could also be worth having someone take a look at your CV and see if it can be restructured or reformatted to give you a better chance

He's not controlling you any more. You can make a difference to your future if you want to. Good luck

And loads of people are applying for jobs at the moment....

I've asked for feedback, it would be good if it's something I can fix.

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time at the moment, daisee - it sounds like you are on the rig road though.

Thanks, loopy, for looking at it from a better angle :)