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Grown men who fancy teenage girls

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Neepandthedragon · 10/01/2014 18:45

I was 17 when I met exp and 18 when we got together, he was in his forties. I looked really young for my age too. I am now in my 30's and have 2 dc with him.

I woke up in the middle of the night remembering how he used to comment on girls we drove past, often making nasty sexual comments. It was always the younger ones he would notice and often very young 15 year old types but sometimes younger - and much younger than I was at the time. I felt sick when this occurred to me and its bothering me.

Just trying to make sense of my life and wondering what you think about men like this.

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Neepandthedragon · 10/01/2014 19:18

We split up 6 years ago, and yes I had worked out by then something was very wrong. I had forgotten about the comments about other girls, probably wiped it from my mind. Last night I remembered and its going round my head.

Our dc are boys. He is not having contact with them at the moment for other reasons. He has grown up girls older than me, never been pervy with his own kids just other peoples Sad

Thanks for your replies. The people we know mutually act like the whole thing is acceptable so I am glad in a way to have such strong responses.

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Pan · 10/01/2014 19:19

If something has triggered this, don't just mull it over and post on the interweb about it. That will do nothing really. Talk to someone in RL about it. eg the NSPCC is open 24/7 0808 800 5000.

TalkativeJim · 10/01/2014 19:23

I'm very glad you've split with him.

He sounds utterly foul.

If those are his views, I wouldn't hesitate to try and keep my children from being influenced by him, or spending much time with him.

Neepandthedragon · 10/01/2014 19:25

Just been in court today, he wants unsupervised contact - other issues about his mental health, but its just clicked how linked it all is plus the continuation of bullying, punishment and EA which is now through the dc. He scares me and I am scared he will manipulate the courts.

Jon - I am so sorry to hear of your experiences. I like being single too.

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Neepandthedragon · 10/01/2014 19:26

Wholesomemum - that's exactly it

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DownstairsMixUp · 10/01/2014 20:12

Can't believe I missed you are without him now, good for you OP, sorry you had to meet someone like that. He sounds vile. Thanks

Neepandthedragon · 10/01/2014 20:44

Thanks, its good to hear an outside opinion and if this ever comes up I will be more confident in speaking up

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