Is this behaviour totally abnormal??

[Applez]

I'm going through a difficult separation. I have good days and bad days. Today I've been very tired, just general stuff, feeding kids, washing, fairly regular day.
At supper time after a long drawn out eatathon my youngest started bawling because I gave the wrong food (just tired and emotionally nothing strange about that) but I grabbed it and threw it on the floor! This is kind of outburst is very unusual for me, and I shocked my self. I felt so guilty afterwards. I suppose I just wanted to know if anyone else has experienced this kind of out of the blue burst.

Just to clarify it was a cracker, not the plate, but it did smash in pretty dramatic fashion, the cracker that is.

I've done similar. . Not proud of it but I think we all have our final straw moment. Because its not the norm my two just fell silent and then started bawling. I felt dreadful for losing it but they did listen better for a while afterwards. Not recommended though. But we are only human

Thanks Jupiter, mine were the same, stunned silence and then bawling. Just made me feel so bad.

Apple going through a difficult separation too (my god, there seems to
be alot of us going through similar right now!!??)

Don't beat yourself up too much, you threw a plate on the floor, no worries lovely!! -

xx

You're only human!

I did something pretty similar just after our separation when DS started having sleep issues and had yelled for six hours straight one night. I felt awful too.

How old are your kids? I did read somewhere though that if this ever happened to you, the best thing to do is talk it over with them, something like "mummy got very angry and threw the cracker and I am sorry if it upset you". Shows you're a human being who makes mistakes and gets sad too and also makes you feel much better for losing your temper.

it'll be worse for you then it is for them

No harm done. Sometimes it doesn't hurt them to know they've pushed you too far.

Next time remove whatever offensive food, bin it, and end the meal sitting.

Calmly and quietly, but no backing down.

I think you have to give yourself a break. When you are in a lot of pain inside you just don't have the same patience with anyone -even your kids. I would agree with EllieInTheRoom that explaining to them is the best way forward. Kids understand they can be snappy and horrible if they are tired or upset and maybe you can explain it's just the same for grown ups. I think the fat that you posted this question and felt so bad about this shows what a good Mum you are. Take it easy on yourself

I'm more prone to snap when I've hot PMT.
Just saying ??

Let me reassure you......

I have four adult children. I was widowed when they were aged 5 to 15. I had many 'bad mummy moments' - well OK, horrible moments. But, you know what? Now they are adults they don't actually remember any of it. They actually think they had a wonderful upbringing, and do understand the pressures I was under. Stop beating yourself up -you are doing the best you can!

Thank you so much for your wonderful and kind responses, I felt awful, and I even tried to cover it up by saying I slipped and dropped the cracker! So I think Ellie your advise is really good, be honest! It really is always the best policy, hugs to you all for helping me through a bad day :-)

definitely go with the honesty. we all have those moments mine usually involves stomping about. after though when I feel like you're saying I sit them down say sorry explain why I did it why it was wrong and what I could have done better. that way they see we are all the same. we all make mistakes. dont be too tough on yourself.