Ex wanting to 'come over and pick all his things up' in one go -

[oopsadaisyme]

Er, in a word, no!

He left us, not going over the hows and whys, posted a thread(s) before etc x

I have said I will drop off his clothes and personal things at his mates or somewhere mutual (although he has seemed to manage without anything (had a stash?) before now -

I have this horrible feeling like he's wanting to take TV's, laptop etc, - he's told me to even leave his clothes in the wardrobe???

What is he playing at???????

I'm guessing he is evasive if you ask him what exactly he is wanting to take?

Don't give him the option, set a place for them to be dropped off and hide away items of value that are absolutely yours. And sympathies, sounds like a really tough situation

I'd ask for a list and say you will pack it all up for him (at least he's not in your home?) and get a mutal friend to pass it on?
I wouldn't be comfortable havin him back in the house, especially if your not entirely sure how civil he's going to be... my dad took all the cutlery, plates, oven, fridge freezer..... Attempted to take the carpet..

Oddboots totally evasive, that's what I'm worried about -

Hi Oops,
Given that he works in nightclubs/music do you think it might be that he
Doesn't want you to go through his stuff because there is something he doesn't want you to see? Like drugs?
I agree, do NOT let him in at ALL! But are you able to keep him out? Did you change the locks? Will he force his way in? Are you in danger of him being violent?

Put everything in a box(es) and tell him he can either come and collect the boxes himself, or you'll take them to a friend's house for him to collect from there. No way would I let an ex rummage through all my stuff!

Er. NO!!!

Yep, box it up and dump it on the pathway.

Don't allow him access to your home.

Cheeky fecker!

I wouldn't let him in unsupervised.

tuhluhah no chance, not his thing (and honestly, his stuff been bagged up (and gone through, I'm not stupid) for a couple of weeks, black bag city and ready to off load!!!) xx

oops, good! Why don't you just put his stuff on the doorstep and text him to say its there today and in the bin tomorrow. You certainly owe him nothing, the way he has behaved towards you. Good luck with getting rid of the tosser's stuff.

lunar supervised or not, no chance -

He's lucky I didn't have a bonfire when I found out how long I've been cheated on for and the rubbish he's spouted!

I'm feeling alot braver at the moment, maybe because he's with someone else now I'm feeling less 'controlled', if that makes any sense???