NC for this. Am a regular lurker and fairly non regular poster!
So....bit of back story... I have some isshoos regarding contact with a work colleague of DH.
Just before Xmas I saw something in a text message which have me the rage. This is most unusual for me as I have never been remotely jealous during previous relationships. However, I saw this message by accident(which has been explained as innocent, although I am still fairly hmm about it) but it has prompted some fairly uncomfortable discussions between DH and myself.
It feels to me like this woman is everywhere, on text message, phone calls and social media sites. There is nothing in towards in any of these contacts HOWEVER I am unhappy about it.
So last night we had the boundaries talk. What is Ok and what isn't. Whilst the discussion was prompted by me I was v clear that what we were talking about was relevant to us both. We had to look at it and say "how would you feel if you were doing that with someone other than spouse"
Everything was fine then after going to the loo he comes back all stroppy and tells me that he loves me and wants a long and lasting marriage, if he has to make sacrifices then so be it.
I am a little bemused by this.I have not asked him to do anything that is particularly out of the ordinary I don't think. Just to keep out of work contact to a minimum, to think about how he would feel if I were to do those things with a male work colleague.
Would I have been better off not talking about it and just dealt with my rage alone