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How long before the next step? Confused

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changeofplanshuh · 08/01/2014 12:58

Hi all, bit of a lurker for a while.

Been with my partner for 8 months and everything is going really well, we've talked about our future which we are both looking forward to and know we are right for eachother.

Only...I'm now starting to think that we are moving at different paces and perhaps want different things despite previous conversaions.

We had originally said that we wouldn't discuss moving in together until we have been together for at least a year...to be sure, well kind of sure.

There are no signs of us taking any further steps, although my partner now has their own key.

I was looking at house rentals and my partner asked me to send them a link to one amazing house I found (I have always browsed lettings because am considering moving out, have been for a while). My partner asked why I was looking at houses in their area (I chose my area with a 7 mile radius) This took me aback.

My partner has today said they are getting a tropical fish tank (she lives at home) as her mum would like this and she can take it when she moves out.

I agreed, to which my gf said that it wont be for a very long time anyway, she then added that her and her sister (both in 20's) have been discussing moving in together closer to my home. I said this would be good for her and now she is saying probably not as her sister is very fussy and it probably wont happen. This is more of a rant I guess. Just confused!

OP posts:
changeofplanshuh · 08/01/2014 12:59

It feels like she thinks I am hinting at us moving in toegther which is why she has mentioned this today. We have always sent links to properties though

OP posts:
brusslesprout · 08/01/2014 13:01

I don't know I'm confused just reading that to be honest!

ALittleStranger · 08/01/2014 13:07

Well it's one of two things:

Either she's trying to prompt you into proactively saying you want her to live with you in the near future, so don't get a fish tank, rent seperately, move in with any sisters etc.

Or she's sending a pretty big hint that you don't have a future together.

The rest of your relationship will help you work out which one it is.

EirikurNoromaour · 08/01/2014 13:10

Why don't you ask her?

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