social services dom violence

[hohoho2014]

hohoho2014Tue 07-Jan-14 23:57:15
Ok so.my ex has been avgresdive snd threatening to me twive whilst.my dd wasat he dads i called the police snd started injunction.proceedings.
I fiund it tough as i waz v scared and felt.lonely.
I cslled womens aid and vuctim support no.one got back.to me.
Lsst week.i had a pos preg test. I stsrted panicking i fidnt.know what to fo as i thought tjus mesnt i had to contact him.
I called childrens services snd asked what courses are availsble for him of i were to fet bavk with him and drop tge injunctiom. The sw then started asking me sll sorts of questions.
I was v uoset snd panicky and i told her

1. I was preg (iv since had gp conf im not
2. I was alone
3. me a.d my mum argue a lot

im worries now as sge wants to visit she said to discuss implications of gdtting back eith my ex and to supporr me.
i went zbd got tge i.junction enforced today i nrver want to see him again. i also had my vo cobf im mot preg.
i had a funny 5 minsxwgeb i calked but im worried si k they will see i had pnd and still get anxiety snd think im unstable. should i call abd tell ger im mot preg a.d i.junctiom is enforced or just let her cone round??
my daughter is happy snd gealthy but obvs hsvibg a meltdown on the phone wont help!!!
im worried tgey wkll think im unstable
since this started in oct i have contacted womebs aid policee victim support and now them. my dauvhter wasnt present any of tge times x

Social services should work with you to keep you and your daughter safe and awa from this man.

Well done for protecting yourself and your daughter, and fir seeking support

i don't have any experience of children's services, but it is my understanding that they are supportive and not judgemental? It might be good to speak to them

They are there to help you.

Of course, given the history, they are going to be concerned and to want to support you to not go back to a man who has been violent to you if it sounds like you are considering this. Who would want to see you go back to being abused and your child to be put back into an abusive household? They don't want to punish you, they want to help you.

It sounds like you are being let down and you need some help. I am sorry that neither women's aid nor victim support got back to you but you need help to not go back to a violent man. Social services can and should help you.

What happened to 'making the break for good' in your previous thread? Why are you talking about dropping injunctions and getting back with him? What's happened to destroy your confidence and self esteem?

Please work with the social worker to stay away from this man rather than persisting trying to see the best in him.

In the op, I am sure she says she never wants to see him again and got the injunction enforced today.

Are you actually looking to get back with him though?

The social worker will be able to support you. Lots of people get PND and anxiety - are you taking steps to deal with that? I don't think you need to worry about the social worker finding out about the PND/anxiety. I think she will just be looking to make sure that you are doing all you can to take care of your own mental health, as well as stay away from your ex.

You're right TheFabulousIdiot. Bit confused by the way the text broke down completely in the last paragraph.

they can help.
just be clear that you do not want to get back with him.

obviosuly if you DID want to get back with him that would be a consideration for the DC as to whether they would be safe. that is why they asking questions.

i will never go bavk that i can swear. i didnt realise begore just how bad it was. i especially didnt think it affected my daughter as it was away from her(he was nothing but nice when sober) howe er i now realise this is a side that woukd get worse.
im wanting to start fresh but i tjink sw thinks i wabt to go back. now im worried she wo.t believe me but i really ddidbt realise how out of my depth i was. no one comes before my child i just want herand mevto b happy x x

vthnks matilda i really am. this gaa been a big shake up. i have contacted relare for coubsellibg as i want to ensure i dont maje a mistake with anyone again. im studying at uni too. x