There is a massive history to this all, but have just got off the phone to mum for the first time since we left on NYD. we had stayed for a few days.
Apparently he is really upset/cross with me because I didn't go up to say goodbye to him before we went home.
He suffers from depression and other things and had stayed in bed so we didn't see him at all that day. That is quite normal and tbh honest I didn't think much of it, but apparently it makes me ungrateful and selfish (mum didn't say that this time but I know it's what he's thinking) and of course makes him the wronged party.
He is quite able to go to the pub and act normal, even if he doesn't feel great, in front of friends, but not able to get up to say goodbye to me, DH and DCs, which is of course my fault.
DH is livid. Mum is caught in the middle. I feel dreadful and have been crying, I'm in my late 30s ffs - am I always going to feel like this?
There is so much more to say but I don't have the energy :( any ideas how I can cope with this kind of situation?