Recommendations for relationship/sex workshops/retreats wanted

[redberry78]

Hi

My husband and I have been together for nearly 10 years and married for 3. We have two darling boys aged 4 yrs and 21 months. Although we still have an amazing relationship in many ways, we have been having a lot of communication problems in the last year or so and we both feel a growing distance between us. One of the big problems is a lack of intimacy between us, basically a non-existent sex life. I feel like I lost my interest in sex during my first pregnancy and it's been really hard building it back again and regaining closeness with my husband. I fear that if we can't get it back the distance will become too wide to repair.

Anyway, I was thinking about us going on some sort of retreat or workshop for relationships and sex/intimacy. I feel I need to re-learn to be intimate with him and he needs to feel confident again with me.

So, my question is, does anyone have any recommendations for workshops/courses, preferably somewhere in Southern Europe over a long weekend.

Many thanks

Not off the top of my head but the kind of thing you seem to want is relationship coaching, so suggest you look at life-relationship coaches to see what they offer. Jo Hemmings is a psychologist and dating coach so she might be worth googling.

You've lost interest in sex and you say he needs to feel confident with you.... does that mean he's lost interest in sex as well? Sex aside, does your 'amazing relationship' include a lot of affectionate behaviour, holding hands, cuddling on the sofa? Or does 'communication problems' mean that you're sitting in separate rooms, sniping or chucking tea-cups at each other? And - sorry for all the questions - has anything materially changed in the last year that you can think could trigger the problem?

I think sexual problems are often symptomatic rather than absolute. So going on a workshop to improve intimacy might be counter-productive if all the things that are currently causing the distance and communication problems are still waiting for you afterwards.