I have to stop reacting! Why now?

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I split with my EA ExP almost 2 years ago. We have a DS3. I have posted before about his continued control and crap behaviour. He won't contribute financially, refuses to commit to regular contact. He has a million excuses as to why. He goes AWOL for weeks, 3 months at one point. I ignore, respond only to fact and practical arrangements. never refuse contact which is usually at a few hours’ notice.

But over the last 3 weeks I’m just so angry with him, I can’t help reacting. I am sniping at his pathetic excuses, reminding him about his lack of responsibility. Asking him to repay money, it’s all coming out and I don't know why.

I know it will achieve nothing but I don't know where the anger is coming from. Can anyone shed some experience on this, is this normal after this much time?

He has a new partner which despite being a relief as I no longer have to tip toe around his threats of suicide, does seem to have fuelled this anger.

I'd say it's entirely normal. You had I don't know how many years of abuse when you were in the relationship and you've had two years of crap since you've been out. You're a human being and, if your patience has evaporated, I'd say that was par for the course. That he seems to have successfully moved on to someone new and is happy (?) probably feels grossly unjust.

Maybe for your DS's sake you kept a lid on your feelings. You did what you had to do to get out of the relationship and it probably took its toll. Even ignoring someone is tiring. Now ex has a new partner. He won't have the same buzz out of tormenting you. He might mellow over time. .

That drop in tension should be a relief - but if you are used to battle stations you now have a lot of old anger and resentment at him calling the shots. It fires you up with energy to say excuse me I hadn't finished with you!

I do like a happy ending so I hope he either starts behaving like a civil adult and does right by DS or FOTTFSOF and leaves you in peace.

Yes that is it! its the injustice How dare he! I'm not finished, He's left me in a load of shit , though I'm relieved I dont have to be nice to him as he's not the broken, devastated shell he tried to make himself out to be, I want a rightful end to this, or best option FOTTFSOF as you say, which would be lovely!