We have recently moved and have a neighbour of a similar age with a dd a little older than my ds. Her dh and her knocked on our door to welcome us to the street and seemed really friendly. I thought great young neigbours, it would be nice to make friends with them. So we were very friendly to them whenever we saw them coming in/out of houses.
Over that time we have had chats in the street and friendly hellos. Once I just happened to go out the door when her and another neighbour were off out and I was invited along.
Since then we have swopped numbers and exchanged a few messages and she has initiated a few meet ups but here is the thing that confuses me.
She mentions in her messages about meeting up and when I am free, so I tell her but get no reply. She would then be very apologetic in texts saying she's forgotten and had gone to so and so. This has happened a couple of times so I then gave trying to arrange certain dates and assumed she wasn't bothered and left it to her for any contact by messages but continued to be friendly if I saw her out and about. She then messaged me again about meeting up and this time we did, I went around hers for a cuppa and we seemed to get on well. Afterwards, I sent her a text thanking her for the cuppa, saying it was nice to see her etc and asked her how her scan went as she mentioned she was expecting her second baby and had a scan the following day. She replied that it didn't go well and she had lost the baby to which I replied how sorry I was but mentioned nothing about any further meet ups. She then replied saying her and her dh wanted to invite us round between christmas and new year, I replied that would be nice and let us know when suits.
I then got a random text asking what I was doing at the moment and if I fancied going to soft play. Unfortunately it wasn't convenient so she said about meeting on new years day instead to which I said yes great. Again, nothing on new years day so I left it. She then sent a message asking if I was back to work this week and if I didn't get any work we could do something (I work freelance) So I didn't get any work today so messaged her and just said we were out later and did she fancy coming too? Again, no reply.
She seems genuinely to be a lovely person and I don't think she's doing it intentionally but I just don't get why people bother to state they would like to invite you around and mentioned specific times or specific dates, which I accept is a loose arrangement, and then you don't hear from them or they don't reply on the day THEY stated. Why mention specific days when you have no intention of meeting up with that person? I would prefer it if she just didn't mention anything about meeting up at all. I cannot work this neighbour out so have again decided just to be friendly and not get into arranging certain days.
Dh reckons if I becomes too much hassle trying to arrange a time to meet (I work three days a week and she works two and days off don 't coincide too well) I won't get anymore offers. I agree with this but I've been available to meet up and she's been unreliable and I don't want to be pushy but also don't want to be waiting around for her if she is giving such mixed messages. Strange I think.