new man

[ToniViolin]

How much of the intensity and 'fit' can I put down to it just being new? I really like him, and it's going really well but really too fast. I am going to see him less, but I had two weeks between 'dates' yes that's a euphemism recently and it still felt the same. He just says/ does everything right.

I don't want to fuck things up by getting wrapped up in someone if it's a trick of my hormones or something. I haven't dated for a long time.

Just take your time and go with what feels right for you. Listen to your instincts and enjoy the budding of a new relationship. I find not acting/reacting straight away and allowing myself to process each step helps.

Enjoy the journey! And hope all works out well for you

Can you unpack 'too fast' a little? Is he talking about undying love and babies? Wanting to see you every day?... Also the 'saying/doing everything right'. Pretty normal for a dating partner to want to present themselves as compatible but is there something specific? Do you think he's trying too hard to be a 'me too'?

Bottom line is that if anything is making you feel uncomfortable about someone, that's a valid reason for not dating them any more. 'Hormones' sounds a bit vague.

It's not that I'm uncomfortable. It's that it doesn't feel real. I am posting to try to 'unpack' it in my head.

I am afraid but I don't know what of. He's not talking about any future plans really, I feel no pressure to do/ say anything. I've known him before we got together. I feel I can be completely open.

I want to know how it is at the start. I can't remember if it's always like this for people, when they start out and everything feels amazing. I want to know if it is something about me and him, or if this is what it feels like at the start for anyone, before the niggles and stuff of everyday life set in?

Oh and by hormones I mean like some sort of oxytocin rush. Although the more I write, the more I think that that is what is supposed to happen.

It's the good bit, stop analysing and enjoy it :)