anyone else just split pre christmas, how are you getting on?

[Maoamstripes]

Just that really. Im going through range of emotions and still haven't "settled" ..denial/overdrive etc.. how do you cope?

You haven't had many reples yet so didn't want to read and run! I've not just split up with a partner but we did split last Christmas (well, end of Nov) so it was a tough Christmas and new year.

So its a year and a bit on. Retrospectively, I'm not sure what exactly was the the most helpful thing to get me through the not so good days...just holding onto the thought that however bad I felt, it would get better ('this too shall pass'); that thought really did get me through it I think. That, wine, long chats on the phone with whoever would let me bend their ear and trying to get out and about, even if I didn't feel like it at the time (as much as possible with 2 young dc!).

It's very tough; but you'll get through it. And I'm strangely enough, a much more emotionally well balanced and happier person now. Good luck

And I forgot to say; experiencing the range of emotions is normal an part of the healing process, though the extremes of emotions can leave you feeling quite bonkers at times! X

I split up with my XDP at the end of November and went through the denial phase as I carried on at my work placement and then had Christmas to arrange for my children, my children for Christmas and I went away for New Year but went out walking every day. Came home on January 2nd and ended up at the GPs as I had an anxiety attack and was given Diazepam to get me through what they called a 'crisis period' (only two tablets to help me sleep as i'd not slept properly for weeks.

The last few days have been good and I am back to work tomorrow which will help.

I am not sure how you cope. Busying yourself is in someway helpful if you also give yourself time to think (which I didn't). I suppose you jsut have to recgnise what you do feel and go with it at the time.

Thinking of you, it is bloody hard :(