Hi everyone.
Trying to not drip feed here. I am a single mum to 15mo dd, after a distarerous relationship ending whilst finding out I was pregnant. it has taken so long to feel free of my narcissistic ex but I truely now feel free.
I started seeing a guy last spring and when it got to labelling us he ran. we did however stay in contact.
I started meeting him again the end of nov as friends and now im seeing him as more than that about once a week. He jas a very demanding job and im too scared to ask him whats going on with us in case he runs.
Now I know it might sound as though hes using me but:
when hes out with the boys he gets drunk and texts me about missing me and how we are so good together.
He has told me many times about how his ex hurt him 3 years ago and hes never been in a relationship since as she's made him a comitphobe (it was a bad situation, drunk when spilling this)
He texts everyday without fail
He tells me hes proud of me alot, esp about getting uni interviews.
When we are together he doesnt act like we are fwb. Hes cuddly, holds hands, cooks dinner, strokes my hair. I even mentioned I had hurt my neck and he massaged it with no other intentions. Hes even held my hair back when ive been sick.
He mentions having a girlfriend will mean he cant go on holiday ad much, as I cant skii but only as a joke.
When we get closer, not that it can be much closer or he can sense that the convo is coming I can feel him start to run. I think hes scared, I know hes been truely hurt and had 4 years tarred wih deceit, lies, fraud, pregnant and sti, I am mid twenties and he is early 30s.
I just wondered what mn perspective might be on it.