Worried for DD, should I get involved

[rek999]

Hi all, just posting as worried for DD. The story is that she got a bit tipsy at a reunion with her university friends. She went to say goodbye to one of the guys and they've ended up pecking on the lips, this kiss was held and there were a couple of other extended pecks (DD's version of events). I don't think this lasted for any great deal of time but DD's DH is saying that he is walking away after several weeks of rows. I just feel sad for her, took a while to get to the point of marriage and then are plans for DC in the future and all the other stuff. If this collapses then her dreams are back to square one and perhaps might not be fulfilled? I know it's her own fault but I'm also biased and think it's a bit of a storm in the teacup. I guess my question is can I meddle and try and talk to the DH? Or do I need to leave it. Thanks.

Leave it. If he's leaving over a peck they must have had issues before. I don't know why a MIL getting involved in his life would make him think he made a bad choice!

Keep out of it, you don't really know what went on and given that, leave them to sort it out.

She may be minimising, he may be over-reacting, whatever, but it's up to them to work through it- and given how life can have its ups and downs and unexpected surprises, it's best they learn now whether this is something they can get over.

I can understand this is upsetting though, just be there for your dd, but remember not to wholeheartedly take her side against him- you really weren't there and you don't know what went on, and it may backfire if they then do reconcile. Just listen, nod and let them sort it out.

Leave it, it won't end well for you if you interfere. Be there for your DD - and even for your SIL should he contact you - but do not contact him yourself.

I guess my question is can I meddle and try and talk to the DH?

Yes, definitely. But 1, make sure you mention the "storm in a teacup" line and 2, keep us updated here.

Leave it. If he's the type to walk away over what is honestly a 'storm in a teacup' then marrying him would be a mistake. Equally if your dd feels she's not quite ready to give up snogging other people then maybe marriage isn't right for her, right now.

But barbarian it took her daughter ages to get this man to agree to marry her. If they split up over a little bit of kissing, she's back to square one. And it's a race you know.

Sorry read OP properly now and see they are already married. Apologies.

Still think you need to keep out though.