It's not really a problem, more advice I'm looking for...
DP and I are great, expecting a child in July. He has a DD previously, I have a DS the same age he raises as his own. Due to money issues we aren't living together yet, but will be come April and the new tax year.
The thing is, I hardly know his family. Neither of us are the type of people that need to see or call family all the time. My family will meet up periodically and all 5 of us with partners, children etc will pile around to DM or DF house. Any occasion will do, even pancake day :)
His family situation is more complicated. His parents have been separated for years but still live in the same house. They don't speak to each other, eat together, nothing. DP hates the atmosphere there and has said he wouldn't want me or the DC there. His DB and DS both live away. Because of this I've met his dad twice at family occasions, his sister the same, brother and mum probably 4 times? That's in the 2 1/2 years we've been together.
He doesn't get on with his dad and after some DV on his mum recently wants him cut off completely so he's out of the equation. His mum and sister will be moving in together in a month close by. His brother is also expecting a child around the same time as us.
His mum has recently asked if she can call herself grandma to DS, we agreed as DP has been called daddy now for 6 months. As nice and cosy. Except we never see them so DS doesn't have a clue who she is!
I assume things will have to wait until she's out and safe in her own home. How would you go about establishing a relationship with DPs family after? And with DS(3) and them? It's strange because we're a solid family unit ourselves and this sort of thing would normally have progressed alongside.