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Does anyone else come across this type of 'friend' or is it just me?

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tubeytuesday · 04/01/2014 23:00

In recent years, I've met about 4 different friends that all want to be good friends almost instantly, and who want a very intense friendship. Usually they want to text or speak on the phone most days, meet up several times a week and do lots of things together. It gets to the point where the friendship becomes a bit too much but it's really hard to cool things off with them, and then all of a sudden they drop me as a friend and then move on to have a new 'best buddy' and virtually fall out with me.

Two of them I still keep in contact with and they both seem to do this with lots of people, and every few months they have a new friend that is flavour of the month, before moving onto someone else.

Has anyone else come across this type of person? I am going to try to be more aware of this type in future and try to avoid getting into any sort of friendship with them.

I just think it's a really odd way to behave. I like to keep in touch with people and be friends with lots of different people, rather than just one friendship and then moving on.

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HumptyDumptyBumpty · 04/01/2014 23:03

Yep. It's hard, isn't it?

I always find there's a slight imbalance in friendships, tbh. Either I like the person slightly more (will travel further to see them, always slightly more pleased when they are part of a group meeting up), and it's not mutual, or vice versa. V rare to have a friend who has the same level of 'need'. Only one of those I have is, for obvious reasons, my best mate.

poncedeleon · 04/01/2014 23:18

I had a couple of these when I was in my twenties. Nothing awful happened, but I'm definitely wary now when someone is too much too soon.

tubeytuesday · 04/01/2014 23:24

It's difficult, because even though I should know by now that that type do move on, I still find it hurtful when I just end up being cut off once they move onto their next best buddy

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