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danibear123 · 03/01/2014 23:46

so im 10 weeks post csection and i dont knoe where to even start , me and my partner very pleased about our little baby boy still am my son is my absolute world .had worst pregnancy 21 bleeds grade 4 previa and goy told our baby died at 35 weeks confirmed by 3 machines and on scan by two consultants and 8 hours later got made out to be mad women cause i felt movement and they thought i was a grieving madcase anyway thats another story and lawyres are dealing with that .any how from about 1/2 weeks after son born partner was their an amazing dad just acting as any proud happy dad would then whn baby was two to three weeks old he dissapeared for 10 days to his bestmates house an stayed a know the mother each day sayn hed be home then not just letting us down and now he acts as if me ir his son dont excist lucky if see him once week or fortnight his family have disowned him for good av told him where to go because its been like this on and off hes so nasty and evil a dunno who he is nomore this is all a shock we planned our life future together hes not the man i knew or dad he changed over night literally and am heartbroken as i dontknow how he can act as if his son isnt alive constant let down just going out putting mates and just everything before us he walked out and doesnt seem to care and has left me to it .it f sickens me iv done everything from day one tryn watch son look after house clean cook bills am managing but av no choice my angel is the reason a get out off bed am so angry and dont understand how he changed over night hes not person i knew finding it hard too accept and how hes walked away and getting on day to day like his son aint here while i raise my child sorry needed to vent :( ...

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RosesOnTheWane · 03/01/2014 23:49

Sorry you are having such a hard time.
Sounds like you might be better off without him though.

Put yourself and your son first.

SantasPelvicFloor · 03/01/2014 23:50

I didn't want to ignore your post but don't feel I can offer too much help. It sounds very traumatic. Have you got support. Does your GP know what's going on ...or health visitor? You need real life support right now. Family?

BIWI · 03/01/2014 23:52

I'm sorry Sad

He obviously doesn't care for you or his son. That's a horrible thing to have to say, but on the basis of your post, it would appear to be true.

Are you protected financially from him? Are you financially secure? Because I think you are going to have to face up to the fact that you are on your own, and deal with that accordingly.

danibear123 · 03/01/2014 23:52

yeah thats what am doing am just so angry how he thinks he can walk away from responsability but clearly men get away with it am going through all these stages off emotions his behavior is unforgivble and is disgusting ....but yeah just needed to vent xxx

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danibear123 · 03/01/2014 23:58

hi santas pelvic yeah healthvisitor has offered extra support and have alot off support off both familys and yes healthvistor has said about post trauma pregnancy councelling as was a very bad experience on a variation off levels , hi BIWI yes i have financial support and all my finances are in tack i have enough savings till a go back to work . Yes av gathered that av not spoke him few days as i told him i want no further contact as hes clearly not interested and that a cannot forgive him just sickens me how men can get away with it ..xxx

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 04/01/2014 07:47

He's not really 'getting away with it' is he? He's walked out for reasons he's not telling you (could there be someone else?) and I'm sorry about the pain that is causing. But he's missing out on being a father to the baby you said he was originally mad about whereas you will be very close to your DS all his life. Once the hurt fades, you'll find all he's got away with is a pretty empty life.

Is he a very young man your ex?

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