Have you ever had to barre family members from your home?

[tiamariaxxx]

How extreme would incidents have to be before enough is enough?

This may sound really petty actually all to do with kids aswell so im not sure if should just grin and bare it or avoid inviting them.

Christmas Eve i had all my family round including my sisters 3 kids, i dont wanna sound harsh but shes no control over them so layed back, i could actually screem at her sometimes, ive been avoiding them coming for a while but as it was christmas i cant leave tem out. I do love them to bits really there lovely just no respect. So her 4 year old dd was throwing food all over in my kitchen, have just found a manky half eaten sanwich stuck on top of my kitchen cupboard, the latest in random food finds.
I dont allow my kids to eat in their bedroom and they know this but my neice and nephew both went up with a bun without knowing both buns tramped into the carpet, 2 year old nepew wiped chocolate fingers all over the boys bedroom wall, tried wiping it off but its smudged have had to put a poster over it.
The nephew also threw the kids dvd player remote control and batteries wont stay in now. Time before he threw a remote control car down the steps and smashed it up, ds2 was really upset my sister promised to replace it but never did..

So ive come to the conclusion that i ban them from the rooms, and also food has to stay in kitchen and hide anything of value or importance.

Yesterday SIL came with her 3 they are a bit older so you expect a bit of respect, they take their shoes off coming in but they went out in garden my nearly 10 year old nephew came back in to the toilet and left a trail of mud all on my new stair carpet. After they had gone her daughter aged 8 had been messing around in the bathroom with toiletries made a right mess. And last night shes txt me to say her 3 year old ds had sneaked a skylander figure home with them, she seemed to think it funny. OK so we'll get it back but DS1 is very protective over his stuff we had been looking for it early and thought it might of fallen down back or draws or something.

Just a bit peeved off, sorry its a long 1. Obviously theres gonna be changed when we have visitors but i want to be able to let the kids play with their cousins without having to watch them like an hawk. Mine arent perfect i know but they arent this bad at peoples houses im sure.

Thing is you can't ban everyone with children from your house. Do you have other friends who's kids do behave appropriately?

Tbf I would not be happy with their behaviour. We don't allow food upstairs etc either and do expect respect for our home and belongings. If you value friendship and can't address the matter I'd suggest go to theirs with faint paints / finger paints and anything else messy I could find

Damn should say face paints damn phone

bluestar2 - Yes i have friends who come with kids and no child is ever perfect behaved whatever anyone says theres always been issues with mainly the kids falling out, theyve never had to be asked not to touch something or theyve never gone home and left a trail of destruction.

Haha good thinking about the paint unfortunately im too soft to do anything like that

RaspberrySchnapps - No i dont want to stop kids been kids like i say they all have their moments, just winds me up that my sister was so layed back she just sits there mesing with her phone. Christmas Eve my mum was the 1 who had to keep telling the kids not to do something, my OH also asked my neice to stop throwing the food aswell, came in the living room and made a speech saying hes putting the safety gate back on the kitchen door (took it off as had an housefull) if everyones finished with food because the kids are messing around and throwing things. Some brightspark left the gate open though and neice and my ds2 got back in and made more mess luckilly i went and got them took my son out and came back for my neice and she ad a big wobbly still my sister didnt do anything.

Anyway we got the skylander back from SIL he went and got it after work, i know its no big deal really just pain in the bum, wish people could be as considerate as when we visit people. I told OH that while he was at his sisers getting the figure back, to tell her about her dd messing with all my toiletries spraying my perfume etc, again i know all little girld do this i know i did but it was the way it was all left blids off lotion etc, i mean shes 8 years old a lovely bright girl surely she must of realised she shouldnt be touching so many items without asking, ive known her since she was a baby ive babysat her loads she knows im no monster... Anyway he didnt say anything to sister said it might not have been her both our boys said so and i know kids lie but the boys have never had any interest in my toiletries ever before.

I will leave it at that anyway, i just know there is gonna be changs next time we have guests. I mean its not just kids, my mums bf annoys me too not taking his shoes off when others do, helping himself to things grrr dont get me started ill save him for another thread hehe