fwb

[devilcakes]

Hey, has anyone had fwb work out into something more?

I have been friends with my fwb for around a year, some times we always hang out, some times it leads to sex sometimes it doesn't.
I recently stayed over, second time In the year, and realised that I really miss cuddling someone in bed, this has lead me to think about friend in a partner type of way.
He is amazing, lovely, kind, genuine guy. We both have been hurt in the past, both have kids, and I really really like him, value our friendship more than anything.

Im worried if I say anything it will ruin our friendship. Im not worried about stopping the benefits part (it would be a shame) but I really dont wont to ruin our friendship.
We have talked about relationships and that we are both happy with how things are, and up to three days ago I really was happy.
So have any of you become more or did it ruin your friendship?

If you want an FWB to become something more you are already in trouble. The only way FWB works is if everyone accepts it's casual.

THIS is why I always say "...it can start off as FWB, but usually one party starts to get it twisted, developing feelings and shit, and ruins a perfectly good thing!"

The rules (FWB) were clearly explained to you in the beginning, you are fully entitled to ask for more, I'd be (pleasantly) surprised if he now wants more! YOU are a bootycall for a reason! GOOD LUCK

I have a FWB type thing going on. Neither of us want any kind of commitment so it works out. We have a laugh, have sex.

It depends on how it started tbh. Was more ruled out from the start? If so that can be an issue.

The whole point of FWB is that either of you are entitled to stop the benefits part at any point and keep the friend.

I'm still friends with my FWB (years ago now). The sex stopped when I met DP but we still talk on facebook etc, used to meet up for drinks before I moved away etc. DP has met him a couple of times and knows all about it

What's an FWB?

Friend With Benefits. A friend whom you shag, but with no expectation of a long term relationship. At their best, they can be great fun, but they do have a few dangers.

devilcakes, will you be ok if you tell him you're wondering if you can take this further and he says 'no I don't want more?' I mean, if you think that that will devastate you, then it's best to say nothing and well, really the situation isnt working any more anyway :/

If you say that you're wondering if you could take this further and he says 'no I don't want more' and you think you'll be ok, then not much to loose by speaking. Specially if you make it clear that you will be ok with him if you carry on as you are.

If he says 'yes' then great :D

Yes, there is a chance that you could loose the friendship but he sounds pretty laid back and easy going so chances are it will go ok.

I guess ask, as long as you can keep it light and handle a 'no' answer without getting upset. FWB do sometimes become more, you won't know til you ask.

There wasn't really any rules, we started by being friends got drunk on a night out and kissed, then I suggested fwb about a month later, its been a regular thing for a while, but we text everyday and see each other at least once a week.
I dont want to live with him or anything like that yet, its more of a " lets be exclusive" feeling. Does that make sense?
I would just like to know if there is a chance of a future.
Oh i dont know, i feel like i would like more, but I really like being on my own to!
Might just put a couple of feelers out see how he feels.
Thanks guys