we have 2ds together. being together for 12 years. for the past 10 years our relationship has become rocky and we started drifting apart. since he rented a takeaway 8years ago he would come home once a week. i have felt quite unhappy and insecure with him for a long time. so on new years eve i told him how i felt and it just isn't working. he took the kids to where he works for a week now and their dad will bring them home tonight. i hope I've made the right choice because our relationship has been on and off. i think the problem is that we don't support /respect each other and i feel like im bringing the kids up myself. he would go on holiday once a year/every 2 years to China. i have no say in how he spends his money because he worked for it. He used to compare me with his ex in China and reminded me how useless and ugly i am. he relized i was hurt but now and again he will let me know that no-one will want me,except him because im so ugly. but then he would add that looks to him isn't as important as personality. he always manages to make me feel insecure and bad about myself. he accussed me of sleeping with other men because im just tired and sometimes i don't want to make love to him. maybe this time it will be a clean break tor us. he already told my eldest son 10 that his dad won't be seeing him anymore but he bought them each an i-pad and my son is confused. my d1s just told me he can use facetime to keep in touch with his dad.