I may have spent nye alone but at least...

[misselphaba]

I didn't have to go mattress shopping first thing on New Years Day because a grown man pissed in our bed the night before.

I split up with XP a few days ago and whilst its still early days and I still feel very up and down, I can rejoice in the fact I wasn't woken in the early hours of this morning by the sound of a man pissing the bed next to me. Not a sound you want to wake upto.

It's a pretty low base but at least the only way is up... :)

Silver linings and all of that.

No matter how much of a bastard they have been there's almost always a bit of 'up & down' seldom is anyone all bad :( BUT it sounds as though you are definitely better out of it, so don't go confusing a bit of 'down' with feeling like you have done the wrong thing!

Happy new year

Ha sorry i shouldn't laugh. But I know exactly how it feels! My ex pissed the bed several times throughout our relationship. Think I had to buy 4 mattresses.
I'm having a down day today and your post has helped me remember how shit it was!
Hope you start to get more up days than down soon.

Oh my goodness mine did that for 13 years after drinking himself senseless. Never ended it because of that. I always used to think back to the first time it happened and ask myself why I didn't get rid then. He made me feel as if it was no big deal. He made me think it was me who was being unreasonable. Set then tone of our marriage.

the tone

That's just the start of better things to come .

So happy for you. Well done for not wasting any more time on this man. Look forward to finding someone who is more respectful. And look forward to more peaceful sleeps.

You know when you're dreaming, and a car alarm or something goes off back in real life and it becomes part of the dream? It was like that. I think I dreamt the bathroom tap was left running or something equally preferable.

I'd forgotten this until today but when he woke up in a wet bed, whilst still fairly addled and confused about why the bed was soaked, he came and kicked me off the sofa so he could go back to sleep.

That is the behaviour of a keeper ladies and gents. No wonder I'm so upset about our break up.

Onwards and upwards and please god don't let me get back together with him. He's a lovely man really, has a good heart and the best of intentions but the road to hell and all that. Good intentions don't mean much when you're struggling to pay the bills whilst he's smoking £20 bags of grass. I realise that doesn't really compute with him being a lovely guy but bear with me, I'm sure I'll hit the angry stage soon.