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Best Friends/Boyfriends

caudleycatering · 2013-12-31T13:55:45+00:00

1) My best friend and I had planned to spend New Year together but yesterday she told me - via text - that she was, instead, going out to supper with her new boyfriend (a month). Why would she do this? What should I do? 2) What would be your advice to sidelined friends? 3) What would be your advice be to new girlfriends who are ignoring/aren't making time for their friends?

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caudleycatering · 31/12/2013 13:55

My best friend and I had planned to spend New Year together but yesterday she told me - via text - that she was, instead, going out to supper with her new boyfriend (a month). Why would she do this? What should I do?
What would be your advice to sidelined friends?
What would be your advice be to new girlfriends who are ignoring/aren't making time for their friends?

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Meerka · 31/12/2013 14:04

she's in love. Grumble ot yourself, accept it and if it happens more'n a couple of times more then say something along the lines of "hey gimme a break, will you stop doing this?"
give them a few weeks / months then point out that she needs friends as well as her bf and stop pissing them about.
(after a few weeks / 3 months). Get a grip. Bfs come and go but your friends are there longterm. Treat 'em with a bit of respect and not like pickup and putdown toys. Even if this bf stays, you're still going to need friends.

Mind you i'd put it gently, not quite as blunt as 'dont treat me like a putdown toy"

brokenhearted55a · 31/12/2013 14:15

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 31/12/2013 14:19

Bless... why would she want to spend NY all loved up with a new boyfriend than with you....? Can't imagine..... :) Advice to sidelined friends is to give them a bit of space in the early days but gently remind them that there's more to life than cock.

mammadiggingdeep · 31/12/2013 14:21

"More to life than cock"

Has to be the MN quote of the year. Love that :)

VanitasVanitatum · 31/12/2013 14:24

She might prefer to be with him bit last minute ditching on NYE is really not on, I'd be a bit annoyed. No point trying to change her mind though, either gatecrash someone else's plans or nice night in!

FetaCheeny · 31/12/2013 14:25

I've got no time for that. Cancelling plans day before for a better offer? Pah! My real friends wouldn't do that to me nor me to them. LTB (leave the bitch )

HollaAtMeBaby · 31/12/2013 14:46

Shag her boyfriend, then never speak to her again.

Meerka · 31/12/2013 14:48

Advice to sidelined friends is to give them a bit of space in the early days but gently remind them that there's more to life than cock.

ahahahahahaha.

nearly choked on my orange juice

CogitoErgoSometimes · 31/12/2013 14:48

How old is this friend btw? Kind of impulsive/selfish approach you'd expect from someone very young. In older women it's just sad, sad, sad....

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