I posted back in October in AIBU re MIL coming to stay.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a1868941-to-not-want-MIL-to-stay-for-3-months
I don't expect anyone to read the whole thing, but the short version is we live overseas, MIL coming to stay for 3 months. I say yes to Xmas and new year, but not 3 months.
I got a lot of sympathy but the upshot is I need to grow a backbone and tell him no.
DH is EA and I am making plans to leave, but I will go when I am ready.
I caved over MIL. Over the last six months or so, our relationship has been much much better.
She is here now.
As predicted, she is driving me demented with the endless drivel and banality. She is winding me up so much, I am getting irrational and tearful (but I know IABU)
DH has always hated NYE, goes back to his childhood
DH has exploded over a missing piece from the camera. Quite true to form with him, a tiny thing will set him off and he is in a complete rage. I know how to weather it and so do the kids. It will blow over in a day (he'll probably be OK tomorrow)
He's gone to bed (which I am glad about)
Me and dds (12 and 15) are happily watching a dvd and will see in the New Year quietly.
MIL was sat with us, but is hand wringing about DH. She won't say anything in front of the kids (everything about her ds and family is so bloody perfect), so she makes a pretence about me going to see to the window in her bedroom and asks me what is wrong?
I said He's had a tantrum about the camera and she says I think it is more than that.
Of course it is, but what does she want me to say?
That her ds is a selfish manchild who treats his wife and kids like shit?
when Dh and me are getting on, he has talked to me about why he is like he is. His sister was the preferred sibling (still is, inc her kids over ours) and he was largely ignored as a child. She calls him by other names (his cousins mainly), which really really winds him up, and still treats him like a child (doesn't trust him to lock up at night, and criticises his driving etc), doesn't approve of his friends etc
I feel so low, if I was in the UK I would walk out now, but it can't happen. I have no residency status here without him, DD15 has GCSEs this year. I am about to do a college course which is part of my plan to leave ultimately- it starts in Jan (also timed to keep me out of the house two whole days a week away from MIL) and has cost me over a thousand pounds which took me ages to save, and I can't lose
I feel so low tonight esp, as FB is full of everyone having a marvellous NYE