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DP calls me lazy cos I get up at 8 am in the holidays

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sweetkitty · 30/12/2013 22:52

So DS gets up about 7.30am and comes into bed with us, DP usually gets up early anyway but then moans that I'm not up. I got up at 8am this morning and went and woke the DDs and he had a right go at me calling me lazy and how he had to do the bins etc and hadn't even drank his tea yet, don't know what the rush was to get the sodding bins done.

Put a dampner on the rest of the day as it's happened twice this holiday. The thing is I've gotten up with the DC when DP goes for his early morning runs.

He's driving me mad with this get up and get everything done attitude. Chill out it's the holidays. He's just said to me I'll have to get up tomorrow as he's back at work even though he's working from home!

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AcheyFanny · 31/12/2013 07:15

My DH is of the mind that it he is up, I should be up. I tell him to chuff off.

purrforamincepie · 31/12/2013 07:35

Yeah talk to him, I believe good soul Custardy provided you with a script you could use. If you can't read and fume at the same time just go nuclear, Father Jack style :) fucking getting up early to do the bins, fucking weirdo. Does he sit up to watch the bin lorry roll in over the horizon and gibber as the orange-vested heave heavy refuse about? He does know it's rude to stare, right?

Cat98 · 31/12/2013 07:43

Who are all these children that don't jump out of bed at 6:30am raring to go and require parental input from the off? Ours is 5 and I can't see that changing any time soon. So jealous!

KepekCrumbs · 31/12/2013 07:51

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sweetkitty · 31/12/2013 07:59

Well I'm up have been since 7am with DS the thought of sleeping until 11am bliss

DP is at the PC working. In his defence he doesn't have a bin fetish, it was bin day and we had a lot if cardboard to put out but usually when he's up early he'll tidy up the kitchen, put the dishwasher/washing on he is good that way but why does it have to be done at 7am?

I just find him odd getting up at 6.30 am to go out running in the cold and rain when there's a lovely warm bed and sleep to be had.

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teacher123 · 31/12/2013 08:02

I am naturally an early to bed, early to rise person, and it looks like DS is taking after me. DH used to stay up till 1am every night and sleep in late in the morning, but since having a job with shift work and DS he's naturally adjusted more towards early night, early wake up. Although I do miss lazy mornings, I do like being up and getting on with the day.

tribpot · 31/12/2013 08:03

Yes, but the difference is you don't actively prevent him from getting up when he wants to, or complain about it when he does.

Earlspearl · 31/12/2013 08:04

Can you have the kitchen clean last thing so there isn't the need to sort it out or put the washer on?

I think he's being selfish. Holidays are for relaxing and your kids and yourself are still in holiday time.

MrsPresley · 31/12/2013 08:20

I'm an early riser, anytime between 5 and 6 am, every day.

There's no way I would expect everyone else to get up early unless we were going out, then they might need to be up by 9ish.

I quite enjoy having a few hours to myself and sometimes get quite annoyed if they do happen to wake early.

OP I'd be telling your DH to bugger off, the way I see it, is if your sleeping then your body needs that sleep.

Shodan · 31/12/2013 08:33

I just asked DH what he thought my reply would be if he asked me to get up early with him.

He looked astounded and said 'I would never DARE do that!'

Well-trained, he is.

VodkaJelly · 31/12/2013 10:14

My DP is an early riser, think 5.30am, he would love to stay in bed but his body clock just goes off early. Sometimes he can stay in bed till 7.00am and he would class this as a lie in.

I, however, stay in bed till about 9 or 10 (depending on when DD wakes up) and DP would never ever have the balls to come and wake me up and demand I get up early. I would be wearing his balls for earings if he did.

I am an adult and I decide when i get out of bed and if other people dont like it then tough shit.

dancelikenooneiswatching · 31/12/2013 10:36

It's 10.30, I'm still in bed, and Dh just brought me breakfast in bed and the newspaper so I'm settling down for another hour or so.

ThePlEWhoLovedMe · 31/12/2013 11:02

I am up but the kids are still asleep ! DH went to work this morning at 7am. When the kids finally wake we will all lay in bed watching films until DH gets back from work at 7pm. We might even order a pizza for lunch ! Now THAT is lazy. Tell him to fuck off.

Catsmamma · 31/12/2013 11:09

are his pants too tight OP? Must be some reason for all this angst and pressure.

I'd go with a stern word...along the lines of custardo's offering, but maybe with a few more fucks in it.

Dh is a terrible sleeper, he hears everything and is always the one to hear the cats/puppy asking to go out...I would Kill.Him.Dead if he ever said a thing to me about getting up earlier.

I am Not Good in the mornings.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 31/12/2013 12:34

Fuck off you tedious twatbadger would never be used in OUR house.

DW would simply grab my bollocks and toss them across the room. 25 years of variable starts have taught us that if there's nothing to get up for, nobody gets up.

Poppylovescheese · 31/12/2013 12:42

Tell him to fuck off. I had ten years of my ds getting up before 6.30, now at 12 he finally sleeps til past 9am and there is no way I would get up earlier than I have to in the holidays. I agree entirely with Custardo.

pumpkinsweetie · 31/12/2013 12:44

Tell him to go & do one!
What a controlling oaf !

FrameyMcFrame · 31/12/2013 12:47

If my DP told me when to get up I'd be telling him to fuck off. Who does he think he is, your boss???

VanitasVanitatum · 31/12/2013 12:59

That sounds really disrespectful actually OP. I'd be really unhappy about that. You're not lounging around forcing him to do all the jobs, there's no hardship to him. He sounds like he doesn't respect your contribution to the family.

Oblomov · 31/12/2013 13:05

I was born to sleep. I got up at 11am yesterday and today.
I couldn't live with op's dp.

thisismyYuleTimenickname · 31/12/2013 13:20

Yes holidays are for relaxing. If he is an early riser that is his problem, let others sleep! That's what I do!

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sweetkitty · 31/12/2013 14:28

We were still arguing about it, his argument someone has to get up with DS (true ) and see to the dog but I said well you like getting up early and I'll do the jobs in my own time like the bins.

He said it would have been nice for me to get up and make the tea for once I did it was called Christmas morning the only morning of the year I'm up before him!!

I asked him why he wanted me up cos I'm rubbish in the morning he would have been doing the bloody bins or some other job as that's what hes like and I would have been sitting on the sofa nursing my tea. Not like it's quality couple time.

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Clutterbugsmum · 31/12/2013 14:34

He needs to grow up and stop whining.

I naturally get up early (my idea of a sleep in is probably about 7am). But I have never said anything to dh about when he gets up. When the dc were babies he would do the late night/early morning feeds because he was up and I would sleep and get up with dc from 5.30am (dd2 doesn't need sleep).

IsItMeOr · 31/12/2013 19:12

Maybe he would like a teasmade for his birthday?

He appears to have confused you with a domestic appliance. Perhaps he should see a doctor to get his mental faculties checked out?

hamptoncourt · 31/12/2013 19:48

I still don't get why you had to wake up your DDs at 8am? You said it was for school but are they not off school? Are you in another country?

Anyway I love getting up early but I prefer to have that hour or two to myself drinking my tea reading mumsnet and relaxing. The problem isn't that he is a lark, it is that he is being a control freak expecting you to adapt to his timetable.

Super post custardo.

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