Help me get some perspective please

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Hi everyone; a bit of background first. I'm a single mum of three teenagers, I've been on my own for over 4 years since my husband (of 20 yrs) left us following me finding out about an affair that had been going on for over two years. As you can imagine life has been very rubbish in the time since but I've kept plodding and life is very much better now.
I never imagined that I would find another relationship and certainly wasn't looking for one but about a year ago I met a lovely guy, out of the blue, and we've been seeing each other since then.
Obviously it's been a juggle fitting in a new relationship and my children haven't found it easy but all seems to be going well. For my Xmas present he has booked a week away for us abroad in the spring.
What is worrying me is that I see on his phone, text messages from another woman quite often. Obviously we don't live together or anything and so I have to trust him as we spend lots of time apart. He has always been open with me about his past, is on very good terms with his ex (they have young children together) and I have no reason to doubt him at all apart from this. He says that this woman is someone he's met through work and she texts him to chat. I don't have a problem with that really, I think that it's just insecurities from my past rearing their head. I don't like feeling like this or doubting him and would really appreciate some outside perspectives and viewpoints please. I don't want to spoil something really wonderful over this. Thanks everyone.

Look at what he's doing (being a great new partner, planning a lovely Christmas present, etc) and what he's not doing (clamming up about his interactions with his ex, keeping his phone password protected and within reach at all times) and enjoy your relationship!

We've spoken about stuff that's gone on in my past and how it makes me feel lots. He's very understanding and supportive towards me. We've not spoken specifically about this person apart from when he was showing me some pics on his phone and a text from her came through and he just said (without me asking anything or commenting) it was *** that he worked with who texted for a chat quite often and that she'd asked him to go out somewhere once and that she'd said she'd like to work for him. I didn't see what the text said. It's been playing on my mind ever since. I don't want to make a big issue of it; I'm not trying to control who he speaks to or anything and I don't want him to think that I don't trust him. It might become a self fulfilling prophesy!!