Drunk DH signed up to dogging site wwyd?

[iceontheroof]

DH royaly fucked me off last night, popped out for a quick drink, rolled in late or even early, stumbled about, woke me up, kicked him out to the spare room as he snores so bad and I'm pregnant, sick and a light sleeper at the moment.

Went down stairs this morning with my DD to find a bottle of beer lying on the sofa all soaked in, one on the floor half heatedly mopped up. Lounge stinks like a brewery. Checked his phone to see he made some arrangements for collecting some furniture today as planned, but his phone is open on deleted Internet history. I shouldn't have I know but I checked everything else after seeing that. In his email was a mail from come dogging.com to activate his membership. Fucking arsehole. He was drunk yes, but this isn'nt the first time I've caught him signing up for stuff like this but it's always when drunk. I don't know whether to just right it off as stupid drunk behaviour, do most men do this? I really don't know what to do.

Most men do not do this. So sorry.

You are pregnant, and he's looking for sex with other people. WWID? I'd LTB, but then I've learnt the hard way and tried to stay with a cheater before - it hurt and it didn't work anyway. So I realise it's easy for me to say (type) and no so easy to do in RL.

I vowed to stick with my DH through anything - sickness, poverty, good times, bad times - and I meant it. But I also promised to be faithful, as did he. I'll stick with him through anything, but my DH knows that if he us unfaithful, our marriage would be over.

What were his intentions do you think OP?

Is it a question of him actually wanting to go & participate in dogging?

Is it just he is interested in it & wants to read about it or view it, which is moe of a porn thing?

Most men don't do this no, but I'm not sure from your post whether this is a first time or whether he does this often? If he has shown a secret interest in dogging before then it could just be a sexual prediliction of his, it takes all sorts to make the world go round & like S&M or other leanings it could be something he wants to keep in a fantasy world & not actually engage in in the real world. He could know your views on it which is why the interest only comes out when he's drunk & his inhibitions are lowered.

Why does it matter what most men do? You only need be concerned with your own DH. Or are you telling yourself that if most men do it, that's ok ?
You're bothered by it, that's what matters.

It's OK not to want to be with someone who drunkenly spills beer around your home - regardless of whether they sign up for dogging sites!

Riot act - he needs to stop drinking if he wants to stay with you, dirty drunken arsehole.

Dogging site to one side...

You're preg, not feeling great, you BOTH have a dd to get up with and he's getting so drunk he spills beer in the sofa your dd will be sitting on in a few hours.

Tell him to grow up!!!!!!!! What would happen if you both behaved like that? Oh that's right- you didn't because you were home with your dd and pregnant. Selfish twat.

The dogging site- if it was just a drink look I could get over it- angry as I'd be. A twattish thing to do and very unattractive IMO. If you think he was joining it to use it...and join in then that's another story....

I wouldnt panic to much that his intention is to go dogging! I think these dogging sites are just like porn sites, they have lots of 'recounts' about dogging experiences for people to read wank to.

I (well, me and a couple of giggly drunk friends!) created a profile on POF.com so we could laugh af a couple of unfaithful, bastard exes profiles on there, I had some explaining to do when Oh got the 'welcome to pof.com sockssandalsandafork your account is now live!' email through!!!

my advice, 'bbdltb' (bollock but dont leave the bastard) unless there are other issues!

You have a child in the house, you're pregnant and your husband thinks it's okay to go out and get so drunk that he's spilled beer all over your living room? Yuck

I think signing up to dogging sites is the least of your worries. Your DD and your unborn child deserve a lot better this this

Doubt he was that drunk tbh.

If I was drunk I don't think I could concentrate long enough to will out a joining up form on my phone

Drunkeness and fiddling about on a tiny keyboard don't go well together

Thanks for replying everyone. I had a horrible day yesterday thinking this over. I agree his manchild behaviour is not on - ie beer spilt in lounge etc. This used to happen all the time but gradually after many years together and some nagging on my part he has taken this on board and this is a very rare occasion. He said he must have fallen asleep holding a beer - which I've witnessed before! Christ it used to be wee everywhere too! lol
I bollocked him on the dogging website, he said he doesn't remember signing up, and can only have been looking for porn which I disputed as Im sure in his mid 30's he know the major porn sites - this is a dogging meet up site. I don't believe he has cheated on me though. Im not even sure I believe it was an intention to cheat on me. Its just he seems to become a dick head someone else when drunk. I get a bit fed up of being let down but no one is infallible. He's pretty lovely aside from these occasional issues, and I think I have to remember that, and believe that this was a drunken error of judgement and keep my beady eye on him for a little while.

Op I went through a similar thing years ago but wasn't pregnant at the time....this ridiculous behaviour is the last thing you need on your plate, totally disrespectful on every level.
If he was that drunk he probably wouldn't have been able to type let alone join some specific 'dogging' site. Sounds like you have made your feelings very clear on the subject.
Take care.

Not so drunk that he couldn't sign up for this site ?
And then leaving beer all over the place.

There's a serious lack of respect for you.

If you can't rely on him or trust him, what's the point?

He's pretty lovely aside from these occasional issues, and I think I have to remember that, and believe that this was a drunken error of judgement

Jesus wept. Signing up to a dogging site is not an error of judgement

What makes you think this is in any way acceptable!

What about if he gets drunk and goes dogging whilst you're at home looking after the baby. Oh, wait... I know, that would never happen, right?

What the fuck is your last post about? All lol and keep my beady eye on him wink wink? He's a disgusting drunken pig who is actively looking for sex with other people. I know you're pregnant but you are properly sticking your head in the sand. Your relationship is very disfunctional.

Yes. You're sticking your head on the sand.

He's a cock and this is can't be swept under the carpet as 'an error of judgement'...

And if you're going to have sex with him ever again (this gorgeous catch of a man who used to wee everywhere), then do yourself a favour and use a condom.

He WILL be going dogging for sure.

Winkywinkola 'He will be going dogging for sure' Don't be so fucking melidramatic!!

*Melodramatic

Most men do not do this (any of it). Being pissed is no excuse. He was sober enough to manage the log in procedure, wasn't he ?

You have a Dud there, I am afraid

How can you be that drunk you fall asleep with beer in your hand, not wake up when it soaks the sofa, but previously quite able to sign up an online account.
FFs woman wake up and smell the bull shit, have some respect and admit your dd doesn't need to feel this is good behaviour.

I couldn't be in a relationship with an adult who had so little self-control that they regularly drank to the point of soiling (be it beer or urine) our home.

No, most men do not do this.

I would also agree with the posters who have suggested you use a condom when having sex with him.

Ask him if he will get counselling for his drinking problem.

Melodramatic? Really? I'm not sure where I was being overly emotional in my last post.

Get him a collar. a lead and make him sleep in a kennel. That'll learn him!