Meeting people in bars...

[JonSnowKnowsNothing]

My male friend and I (he's gay) are both single and live alone. We work together and he's a good guy. Both of us are sick of being alone and both been hurt by relationships recently.

We went out last night in our nearest town, which admittedly is a shithole, and.... I don't know what I expected... But, I don't get how you can ever "meet someone" in a bar environment. It was pretty grim. Fights, Puke, etc.

This is a bit of a pointless post, but it's got me thinking how the hell am I going to meet new people? I live really rurally and LOVE that. I found with OD that most men on there are city types. No possibility of meeting anyone through work...
Don't get me wrong, I love being alone but have been single for heads now. Sorry for the ramble.

I agree with you about bars, not my cup of tea at all.

I met my partner on line but I'm not rural, sorry if that's unhelpful!

Not unhelpful, I appreciate the reply! Did it take you many dates to meet him?

No I'd only met up with one other guy who wasn't right for me.

The moment I set eyes on my boyfriend I knew I'd made the right decision to meet him (sounds corny I know and I'm waiting for the bubble to burst!). To be fair I had set myself high standards which I promised myself I wouldn't compromise, and one of those was that I had to be madly attracted to someone to have a relationship with them.

I've been married (currently going through a divorce) and had my dcs so I might be in a different position to you.
I also promised myself that I won't be taken for a ride again and won't do anything I'm not comfortable with.

There was an instant attraction for both of us, he had had around 6 previous dates but never met up again with anyone.

When I agreed to meet him I wasn't expecting much and genuinely thought it would just be a quick coffee.
I approached it with the view of what have I got to loose?

That is hugely helpful thanks
After some relationship disasters and being crapped on/messed about, etc. I have upped my standards, too. I genuinely do love being alone BUT for the first time it's scaring me a bit that I might not be able to find someone even if I want to. It sounds like you definitely "knew" when you met your boyfriend. I'm just going to have to bite the bullet and actually meet up with people, aren't I??