Sad Mum

[tedless]

I am very concerned about my Mum we have recently had the 2nd anniversary of my dads death and she seems to have really reached a low patch. I have suggested she speak to her DR and look at receiving councelling but she will not hear of it. She is very low and seems to be harming her friendships by sitting back and not taking an active part. Some are fabulous but I do worry that she is losing some as she expects a lot but is giving nothing in return. I appreciate that Christmas is hard but I am struggling to help her and feel very guilty as when we talk I feel like I am telling her off but I am trying to help her to see things from their point of view. She said her life will never improve from where it is now and I find that very hard. I don't live local enough to see her every week she has driven home today and I feel I am letting her down.

tedless you sound like a lovely dd. I'm not sure what else you can do for your mum, you are phoning her, seeing her when possible and as you say, she seems to be letting life slip through her fingers. She is deep in grief and in some ways will have to find her own way through it- you have suggested the GP which was very sensible but she is not interested. I don't know what you can do but I do know you don't need to feel guilty or that you have let her down, this is her (hard) journey and all you can do is keep being a lovely dd to her as you already are. Best of luck.

Thanks Mumsyblouse, you are right she does need to sort this out for herself. Will try to stop feeling guilty.

Grief can take years.

Has she been in touch with a bereavement organisation, such as Cruse?