Need a kick up the bum/words of encouragement RE: night out as single mum

[EllieInTheRoom]

I've been out a couple of times since the split on usual things like Christmas meal with the girls etc but I feel really funny and a bit teary about tonight.

I've been working today and will be working tomorrow so DS is with EXH from this morning until tomorrow teatime. So my sister suggested we go out for a few drinks tonight as I will be in on my own.

I want to, and I am going to go, but it just feels really weird, I feel so guilty. Not sure why. Anyone I have mentioned it to today just thinks I am mad and they don't get it all.

Does anyone understand?? I just feel like its wrong but I'd also like to have a nice time

It's the longest DS has been away since the split for a start.

And I feel like its like I can get rid of him every weekend to go out on the piss, which obviously wasn't the reason I kicked ex out

Ellie it sounds like you've had a busy day working (and working 2moro) your DS is with his DF, it is only 24 hours until you see DS . You don't have to go out tonight. You could get some drinks and watch a film and chill or go out for a bit and come home early and have some TIME TO YOURSELF, us single mums don't get much of that

Thanks spanna

I might just go out for a bit. I've never been one to pass up an opportunity to go out, although obviously they've been few and far between since DS.

I just feel so guilty that he's gone to ExH and I am single carefree lady over here. Does the guilt go away?

I don't think Mum guilt ever goes away, well not with me anyway
You go out and have a nice time. It's good to spend time 'as you' as opposed to 'mummy you'.
Have a good evening

I'd go to sleep, personally.

Be kind to yourself. The kid is with his dad. He's lucky he has two parents who love him and want to have him.

I'm guessing it's a recent split, DS still very young? From one single parent to another I can categorically tell you that a bit of time to yourself is absolutely essential to your sanity well being. You have nothing to feel guilty about and it's good for your DS to spend time with others, especially his df.

Just go out and enjoy yourself :)

You're only as guilty as you want to be.... Pushing a child out of your nether portions doesn't stop you being a human being in need of adult companionship and a life of your own. Sure, we all do our best for our kids and mostly put them first, but they also need to know that you're more than just a food-dispensing, bedroom-tidying, general factotum. You're also a person with interests, friends, a social life.

Guilt is for the birds. Enjoy your independence. :)

Thanks everyone! I'm all dressed up and ready to go.

It'll be fine. Guilt is postponed until tomorrow!

Cheers

Hope you enjoyed your night out OP.