(D) h has said some really bad things which I believe are bordering on abusive.
Last child not planned and he has 3 times pretty much said that he didn't want her or that she should have been aborted. Twice in front of other dc. Dd is a baby so hopefully she won't be affected yet.
Has said that me and dc have been sponging of him for the last 14 years. I was working full time for 5 of those years snd a sahp for rest.
He shows disrespect by leaving his stuff lying around and than shouting at dc when they do the same. Only last night he left a drink on table which dd spilt.
Like most 9 and 8 year olds they don't always reply immediately when asked to do some. He literally screams at them. His mum even spoke to dc and asked them to answer immediately so as not to get him worked up.
He broughts treats for him and dc when baby came and was told baby was the present.
Was unsupportive after birth ie changed a few nappies but didn't do any housework or ironing etc despite me having a csection. When I complaim he says he is too tired working to do more. He clearly thinks I sit on my arse all day doing nothing whilst he is working. In fact he once said I would get more done if I stayed in more and didn't go out shopping all the time. This was the week before Christmas which was full of nativity plays, parties etc.
I know some of these probably seen insignificant but it is truly getting me down and I am worried about the effect it is having on other dc.
However, over christmas he fainted and paramedics were called and both dc were distraught.
Makes leaving so much harder.
Thoughts please.
Thank you